• someone out there please tell me how to tell my kids that mommy has no money at all for them because I am sick

    Asked by crystalc on Thursday, May 24, 2012

    someone out there please tell me how to tell my kids that mommy has no money at all for them because I am sick

    Someone please tell me what to do I dont want to let my children down but what other choice do I have, we don't even have the money we need for the meds that I need to help me get better. why cant an angel just drop me a little bit of money to help my kids be happy. and how do I tell them that mommy will be leaveing them soon because mommy has cancer, what do I do? PLEASE I BEG OF YOU TO GIVE ME YOUR ADVICE ''PLEASE''

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    • SunnyCloud's Avatar
      SunnyCloud

      Have you tried contacting the American Cancer Society? They helped me out a lot. Also, my cancer center has a social worker that helped me out too. God bless & keep you!

      almost 5 years ago
    • SunnyCloud's Avatar
      SunnyCloud

      P.S. Only God knows when you will leave this world. The doctors dont get to decide that. Have faith til the last moment!

      almost 5 years ago
    • bigladylw79's Avatar
      bigladylw79

      I agree with Sunny. Pray and keep faith. Allow God to work miracles in your life. Cancer is hard to deal with. I am here to talk if you need someone. I will pray for you and your children.

      almost 5 years ago
    • GRACENOW's Avatar
      GRACENOW

      Yes! The American Cancer Society can help you!! Contact them.

      almost 5 years ago
    • RuthAnne's Avatar
      RuthAnne

      I don't know how old your children are so your question is a little difficult to answer in that respect. I do agree with SC that it's not going to be helpful to tell anyone that you're leaving soon because you just don't know - none of us do until we're on hospice, really. As far as lack of money for medicine goes, several questions have been posted here that cover resources (also check out the blog). As far as having money to make your children happy, I don't believe that money and 'stuff' make anyone happy - for any length of time anyway. What WILL make them happy long-term and stay with them into adulthood is the time you spend WITH them, weather you die tomorrow or 50 years from now.

      I know that a cancer diagnosis is shocking and your world does change, but don't roll over. My radiology oncologist gave me the best advice. She looked me straight in the eye and said, "Just go live your life." So go. Live.

      almost 5 years ago
    • Mindy91's Avatar
      Mindy91

      God is always faithful and provides when we ask! The American Cancer Society is a great resource but also talk with someone at your oncologist office ie nurse, social worker or your doctor. A lot of pharmaceutical companies offer drug assistance programs. Usually qualification is based on family income. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. God Bless

      almost 5 years ago
    • Blue's Avatar
      Blue

      ...in realizing the financial hardships in our current medical system, I think it behooves us to work for improvements in making healthcare more affordable. So many people must use emergency hospital services for care that they could receive for much less cost through a clinic. Our healthcare delivery system could use some tweaking, to put it mildly.

      almost 5 years ago
    • JannD's Avatar
      JannD

      I raised three daughters with a husband who was a Viet nam veteran. He was in a wheelchair by the time he was 30 and dead at 51. The girls were small, ranging in age from 4-9 when the wheelchair entered our life. His problems stemmed from Agent Orange, the chemical that was used. At that time the government did not recognize, nor pay claims for this. Now it is much better. But I had about $6.00 most weeks to feed our family of five. even in the 80's, it was not much. No food stamps.
      The amazing thing about kids, is they are far more understanding than adults. They just need simple explanations for now. But remember that love is spelled t-i-m-e. As long as you are there with hugs and validation of THEIR problems, they will be okay without the money. I promise you. Goodwill clothes shopping can be an adventure. Creative meals out of nothing can be fun if you involve them in the plan. I learned to make a cookie from anything, even if I had no eggs or the usual things you think you need. Be good to yourself and keep smiling and they will too.
      Jann

      almost 5 years ago
    • crystalc's Avatar
      crystalc

      I am very greatfull to everyone of you, Thank you so much. I love my babies with all my heart and soul.although I am very scared still I am no longer dwelling on the fact that I have cancer. and while I am still searching for normal. I am happy and I am going to live my life for me not matter how long I have left. Today is my birthday and I plan on haveing fun no matter what. my family is the most inportant thing I have and I want them to be happy.

      over 4 years ago
    • Genjen's Avatar
      Genjen

      First If your American Cancer Center can't help you, I would go online and look up organizations that help those who have terminal cancer, just type in organizations that help those with terminal cancer and you will find help, also look in your phone book under Community Resources and you might be able to find more resources, on your meds, sometimes the med company may help those who can't afford their products. In regards to your kids, no matter how young they are they need to be told about your situation and be very honest with them they can take it and if you need help there are books at most libraries on how to talk to children about cancer. If you have other questions email me, I use to be a nurse so I can offer more help if you still having trouble.

      over 4 years ago
    • Genjen's Avatar
      Genjen

      If you still haven't found help thru the American Cancer Society you can go online and type in organizations help with those who have terminal cancer and you should find lots of resources. With your medications most drug companies will help those who can't pay for their medications if not go back online and type in help with paying for medications and you should get a list. With your kids no matter how young they are you need to tell them whats going on and tell them the whole truth if you don't know what to say you can find books on the subject at your library, but you have to tell them and they will get it and understand why you can't buy certain things(but there are organizations that will help buy christmas toys or birthday stuff or clothes, school supplies etc... I hope this helps but if you still have questions email me and I will try and help as much as I can, I use to be a nurse until my cancer got worse and I no longer can work and with the "leaving your kids soon" isn't necessary right because I wasn't suppose to live past 25 and I will be 49 in a couple of weeks so don't give up until your last breath.

      over 4 years ago
    • Sugarshine's Avatar
      Sugarshine

      Now is the time to find out where you sign up for toys for tots or other community resources for holiday meals or toys for your children as its in November when you actually sign up. You don't want to wait for the last minute. Look online or check with the social worker at your hospital to find out what's available in your area. I will keep y'all in my prayers and remember God knows what you need and will provide :-)

      over 4 years ago

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