• Strange Dreams at the end of life

    Asked by barryboomer on Thursday, January 28, 2016

    Strange Dreams at the end of life

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    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      Mom and Dad both would call out names and talk to people in their dreams when we were sitting with them. They called out some names that nobody knew who they might have been. It was a little strange for sure.

      over 3 years ago
    • NNN's Avatar
      NNN

      Interesting link...I have heard that when they start communicating with dead relatives and friends, you know that they are ready to go to the other side...

      over 3 years ago
    • cam32505's Avatar
      cam32505

      When my mother was in hospice, we were told of something like this. So, we tried not to communicate with her too much, so that she wouldn't suffer and prolong her life. According to hospice, a person needs to let go of the living before they pass away. I guess this makes sense.

      over 3 years ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      My dad answered questions to God. He never talked to lost relatives, though. He was so aware some of the time on the night that he died that when he accidentally touched my mother's hair (a no-no), he apologized. (I never let her live that one down)

      over 3 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      This is the reason, I don't want to be drugged on narcotic pain killers. I want my visions whether terrifying or comforting, And I do believe mine will be terrifying.

      over 3 years ago
    • meyati's Avatar
      meyati

      My husband talked to lost ship mates and his spirit returned to Vietnam. Then he'd be back to the present. My father was hospitalized the last few days of his life-about 4 days. I don't know about that, but he didn't seem to go through this process.

      over 3 years ago
    • meyati's Avatar
      meyati

      My husband talked to lost ship mates and his spirit returned to Vietnam. Then he'd be back to the present. My father was hospitalized the last few days of his life-about 4 days. I don't know about that, but he didn't seem to go through this process.

      over 3 years ago
    • Molly72's Avatar
      Molly72

      Maybe those aren't dreams!

      over 3 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      I don't believe they are real dreams BUT part of the process of dying whereby it is made easier for us at the end. Can't wait to find out where I wake up....Going to be very cool. Planet Earth is only first grade.

      over 3 years ago
    • Schlegel's Avatar
      Schlegel

      Interesting auricle. As one who fears dying but not death, this provides hope. Unfortunately, I was not around when my parents and brother died.

      over 3 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      This is widely known with Hospice Nurses and Doctors.

      over 3 years ago
    • RubyFaye's Avatar
      RubyFaye

      My sisters and I wanted to be right beside our mother when she passed and Hospice told us, many patients choose who is with them when they pass and it did not mean she loved one more than the other but she knew who could handle it or not.
      Also, we could tell when she was talking to someone outside of the room and we would ask her questions but Hospice told us that we interrupted her journey when we did that. We realized they were right because our Mom would try to reconnect with us and then she had to start all over. They said the best thing for the dying person was to have quiet talk in the room or soft music she liked, holding her hand or just have a hand on her body.

      over 3 years ago
    • AliciaCorinne's Avatar
      AliciaCorinne

      Boise B why do you think your dreams would be terrifying?

      over 3 years ago
    • AliciaCorinne's Avatar
      AliciaCorinne

      Boise B why do you think your dreams would be terrifying?

      over 3 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      I believe that they will be terrifying because when I review my life, it really isn't very good.

      over 3 years ago
    • Schlegel's Avatar
      Schlegel

      BoiseB, If you cab get hold of a book called "Life After Life" by Moody, you might get some comfort. This was the first book about near death experiences, came out in the mid-seventies. I found it very comforting.

      over 3 years ago
    • AliciaCorinne's Avatar
      AliciaCorinne

      Regret is only useful if it helps you change the things you don't like. G-d only knows I would have done a million things differently - if I had the strength, courage, intelligence ... I still regret recent things but I wake up and think I can try to do better, be better from this second on. I need to be kinder to myself. BoiseB it sounds like you need to be kinder to yourself. I Don't think we can forgive others unless we can forgive ourselves.

      over 3 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      I watched an hour and a half long documentary on near death experiences, Dr Moody was one of those interviewed. It was a very enlightening. It would seem to me that many people get a incredible beautiful moment before death. True death we can't say scientifically because no one has been dead long enough for the scientists to say she/he came back from the dead The recent long dying of my mother and the death of my sister-in-law I have sort of been obsessed with near death experiences. Now I have this really bad situation that really could go south, I am really obsessed.

      over 3 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Alicia, I refer to my life as the 11th inning. The Dr.s have twice stamped an expiration date on me. Guess what I am expired. So I say I gotta knock one out of the ball park soon.
      I have found it easy to forgive others because I really don't know what is in their hearts. I know my short comings and failures so forgiving myself is very hard.

      over 3 years ago
    • AliciaCorinne's Avatar
      AliciaCorinne

      Well I still think you need to work on forgiving yourself. I think for me I can't go back and change my wrongs or get a do over but I can try to find a way to right my wrongs - directly if possible or indirectly by helping others and trying to be kind - it sounds like you are a conscientious and kind person - ask yourself if you would forgive others for the same things you have done - maybe you would have more peace if you could forgive yourself. I don't think I have a fear of judgement - but a real fear of death because I don't know what to expect - I do not believe strongly in religion nor am I super spiritual - maybe it's my background as an RN and NP that I see a lot of suffering in death. It is not always pretty or peaceful. Doctors talk around it. It's all very cold and clinical.I never want to die in a hospital or be kept alive by machines. I think when people used to die at home death was more a part of life but now we hide it away as something to prevent and be feared. I had my babies at home. I want to die at home when it is time for me. I like people's reading about it on a more spiritual level. The books I be read lately are not comforting but more clinical and depressing. I'm afraid of stupid things like being claustrophobic if I'm buried or in an urn or needing my body again if I'm cremated - I know it sounds stupid - I think I'm also afraid of the finality - of being forgotten - I guess I need to work on that ego XXX - ahhh well GN - this tired body needs to get some rest and get up for work tomorrow and hope my new treatments don't drop my counts and make me prone to infection -

      over 3 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      Alicia....Go to google and search The Urantia Book....Urantia means planet earth. It's on line for free.

      over 3 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Alicia I would prefer to die at home but I don't want to burden my family with my physical care. like feeding and cleaning up. I don't think I could afford to hire people to do it the cleaning up. It seems that I shall have to die either in the hospital (which I do not trust or in hospice which I trust even less) I really have no problem with machines keeping me alive. When the brainwaves stop I guess that pretty much means you are dead. I am a Christian and I believe in and study the Bible. I believe that the Book of Revelation last 2 chapters in particular describe the afterlife.
      You can go to YouTube and type in near death experiences or even just NDE's and you will find hundreds of hours of people describing near death experiences.

      over 3 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      NDE'S are in between HERE and THERE and is not Heaven or the Next Stop.
      They sound wonderful but nobody came back from Heaven to tell us what it's like. If you believe in the Jesus Story than HE told us....but no regular person has. Maybe NDE'S are real and Maybe not but it only part of the story.

      over 3 years ago
    • meyati's Avatar
      meyati

      Personally, I don't think that it makes any difference on where I die. It's sort of having an "old fashioned" baby. It came when it wanted to, and you got either a girl or a boy-sometimes both. I know that I'm going to die sometime, just as I knew I'd deliver a baby sometime.

      over 3 years ago
    • Molly72's Avatar
      Molly72

      Barry: Recommend this book to you or anyone else interested, it's somewhat scientific in scope,
      but quite thought provoking. Weird in places too!
      Amazon has it, I think this is the title:

      "A Neurosurgeon's Journey in (or to) the Afterlife" by Dr. Nathan Alexander

      over 3 years ago
    • Molly72's Avatar
      Molly72

      Proof of Heaven: A Neurosurgeon's Journey to the Afterlife"
      That's the correct title

      over 3 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      I read the book....very cool. Anita Morajani or something like that has had an amazing one...

      over 3 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      I am sort of freaking out. Last night I had a very strange nightmare. It was one of those real time dreams ; the kind that happen in your room at night and everything is like it was when you went to sleep But there was two people in the room one at the foot of my bed and one at my head. They were a man and a woman and they were dressed in nurses uniforms. Then I saw my father in the room he looked very young and had a full head of hair but I knew it was my father. The man nurse said we have to take her away but my father said No. Does this mean I am going to die soon? Just probably sleep depravation or the effect of the sleeping pill.

      over 3 years ago
    • Schlegel's Avatar
      Schlegel

      Only you can interpret your dream. It may mean that you are very afraid of death, and your father's No is the hope that you will not die soon. Are you able to get counseling somewhere? If so, I would discuss this dream with your counselor.

      over 3 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      You are very right Schlegel It was probably my fear of death. My father could be communicating to me that I need not be afraid of death. Thank you for your thoughts

      over 3 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      What's the use of being afraid of something that every single living thing on this planet has gone through. HOW Bad can it be. But of course the Process and Pain of dying is the part that s u c k s.....

      over 3 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      BTW God or whoever gave us free will to end our own life.
      But of course once we are incapacitated we lose that ability...
      I hate it all but it IS what it IS and cannot stop it no matter how
      much we try....

      over 3 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      The afterlife is what I am afraid of my belief is that it is very good for some people and very BAD for some people and that I am likely to be one of those headed for that very BAD place. Now back to my will

      over 3 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      I thought Christians are covered with the Blood of Jesus. IF you accept the free gift you should get a free pass to Heaven.....???

      over 3 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Barry I believe that Christians are not the only ones in Heaven. I do accept Jesus as my Savior and the Savior all mankind. I do believe that Jews and Christians have a special place. But I do believe that after we die there will be some very hard questions for Christians, One will be how have you shown the Love of God to others. I don't know if I can answer that question very well.

      over 3 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      I think Catholics believe in good works....
      Listen Billions of people died over the eons that had NO Religion and didn't have faith in anything except trying to find their next meal. IF there is a next place we are all going...Some start in first grade and some are more advanced and start in third grade....BUT we are Humans and part of being a Human is learning from our Mistakes and Foibles....that's what make us better People. It's not about any religion....Whatever is coming it's coming for all.....You TOO...

      over 3 years ago
    • Molly72's Avatar
      Molly72

      What about the rest of us who are neither "Christian" or "Jewish"? Those are not the only belief systems or religions in this big world.
      Do we have a special place too? LOL!!!

      I believe in an afterlife where all will be shown a review of their life, the good & the not so good as well. I also believe in living again, many times and in many diverse circumstances; learning from each of these lifetimes so that eventually you will "get it right" and not have to return.
      Dying is nothing to be afraid of, the hard part is living in this world, putting up with the stuff we have chosen to put up with, and doing it with grace. Also trying to be kind to everyone & thing.

      over 3 years ago
    • RubyFaye's Avatar
      RubyFaye

      Years ago while I was in counseling, I learned that dreams have meaning and are trying to tell me things that I did not remember and feelings I felt deep within.

      After I was told I only had about a year to live, I started having dreams of people that had died. In my dream, I did not know they had died and they were always inviting me to go somewhere with them. Most everytime, I would refuse (and that was unusual for me) because these were people I loved and I normally would of gone with them. One particular dream, my Mom and Dad wanted me to go to a funeral with them and I jumped in the car, but I realized they were taking me to my own funeral, so I told them I saw a friend and wanted to get and and talk to him. Funny thing is, he was working in a shop that was passing out angel gowns.

      I come to realize that death was in my thoughts, subconscious and dreams. I then started taking control of my dreams, when a person in my dream (ones that were dead) invited me to go anywhere with them, I knew I did not want to go and I with purpose and strength, not wavering, said "No, I don't want to go right now"

      I found that I then became calmer and I was not consumed with death and the dreams stopped. In the past 3 1/2 years, when I get bad news about my cancer, I may have a dream but it just reminds me, to take control of my runaway emotions.

      over 3 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      Molly.....it's not the death it's the process of dying that I hate.
      All religion is just made up to keep the masses in place and
      to make a LOT of money TAX FREE.
      It's the biggest scam and hoax ever on the planet and SO MANY
      buy into it hook line and sinker....Sad.

      over 3 years ago
    • Schlegel's Avatar
      Schlegel

      barryboomer, you are too cynical. Yes, there are a lot of problems with churches, but there is also a lot of good. Last year when I was homebound for five and a half months, church people (and neighbors) went to the grocery store, drugstore, bank for me, took out my trash, got my mail, drove my car, took me to the doctor (no small task since they had to take me up and down a step in a wheelchair), and did other things I needed. Today, a church member takes me to the grocery store every week because I am unable to walk all over the store.

      over 3 years ago
    • RubyFaye's Avatar
      RubyFaye

      BoiseB, I don't usually get into politics or religion on forums because there are so many views but my heart is heavy for you because you seem to feel that you are a total lost cause and I just want to express how I feel.

      I believe God is Love and that is why He sent His Son to Calvary. He shed His blood for our sins and to be covered in His blood, I just recognize my sins and the things I know that displeases God and acknowledge He is the Son of God and as Him to forgive me of my sins because I am truly sorry for things I did that were wrong. At that moment, all those things are wiped away to be forever forgotten by God. I use a windshield filled with chips and cracks that represent all the bad I every did and looking through that just keeps reminding me, but when Jesus forgave me, the windshield was made completely new and I could see out it with a new look at life. Now my job is to live differently and not do those things I was so ashamed of and if I mess up, He will forgive and help me to be what He created me to be and to love as He loves. I pray and read my Bible everyday and I ask Him to live within my heart and help me along my journey in life. God loves and forgives but we humans have a hard time in forgiving others and especially ourselves. There is nothing He will not forgive. My prayers will be for you to find peace within by the help of Jesus Christ and to go into your surgery with confidence that your heart is right and you need not beat up on yourself any longer. God Bless dear BoiseB.

      over 3 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Molly I believe that all those non-Christians and Non-Jews will have a special place also. It is just hidden from the Jews and Christians because they think they are the only ones up there. I frankly love all religions. I believe the Dali Lama is the wisest person on the planet.
      I don't really think I would look forward to my part in an afterlife where I had to correct all my mistakes. For me that is "not good" That concept is sort of like a make-up test, bad thing about make up tests they always included the things you got right

      over 3 years ago
    • Molly72's Avatar
      Molly72

      Boise, I don't think you are as "bad" as what you might think! You sound like a caring & decent type person to me & to others here as well.

      Religion is not as important as one might think, although most will disagree with me.
      Life should be lived with kindness to all things, doing good to all as best we can. It has nothing to do with attending a place of worship every week then living like some sort of nasty barbarian the rest of the week and then having the nerve to believe that you will be "forgiven" by your particular god. What a concept!
      How no earth will anyone ever learn to be a good soul if they believe in such an odd idea? Just behave yourself in the first place..... at least try!!!!

      over 3 years ago
    • happydyad's Avatar
      happydyad

      I only know what I know so here it is: I had a bad accident when I was 26. My spirit left my body and hovered above me. I felt no pain during the time I was outside my body. It was blissful and the only emotion I had was curiosity. I am not afraid to leave my body again. Judy

      over 3 years ago

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