• suggestions for coping with emotions? have been a basket case last 2 days. not helpful to my spouse or me!

    Asked by moxie on Friday, March 15, 2013

    suggestions for coping with emotions? have been a basket case last 2 days. not helpful to my spouse or me!

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    • Nomadicme's Avatar

      I'm sorry to hear. I got antidepressants and sleeping pills prescribed. Sleeping is very important. I now mediate and it helps some. Support from other cancer patients is also great, the ACS can direct you to live meetings. There's nothing like other people that understand.

      Meditation (not philosophy based): 10 min a day. Close your eyes and try to think of nothing but the breath coming in and out of your body. If you find thoughts are still creeping in, count your breaths as well. This could help relax you, and you'll get a 10 min break from those thoughts!

      about 7 years ago
    • Barbs' Avatar

      I am a caregiver. My husband is the patient. This is so hard, because we know that no matter what we are suffering, emotionally, they are suffering more -- both emotionally and physically. We feel guilty about our own complaints, knowing that no matter how tired we are, how shell-shocked by the diagnosis, how sad and afraid -- the person we love is also dealing with those things, as well as the affects of treatment and disease. I am seriously thinking about asking my doctor for help in the form of anti-anxiety meds and will make a decision about that soon -- but, in the meantime, what gets me through is just focusing on one day, one problem, one symptom, one side-affect at a time. Whenever my brain goes long-term, I jerk it back into the "now" moment. I can't deal with the future, but maybe, right now,I can make a suggestion, give a smile or a hug, bring him a drink or his medicine, keep track of his appointments. The hardest times are when I am alone and quiet, with nothing to do but think -- I try to keep those times to a minimum. One day at a time -- that's all we can do.

      about 7 years ago
    • sheryl1986's Avatar

      Know that you can get through this..cry..let it out..and if you can move on...i was not "why me" my motivator was "try me" and it did....It's okay to be a basket case...give yourself that....you can't be a basket case for 15 mns and then think it's all over...you may become a basket case later in your treatment...again...I worked right up til the day that i started treatment...and still wanted to work after i started...I also started meditation...that helped alot!!! Maybe for both you and your spouse. Good luck!

      about 7 years ago

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