• Support for facing the inevitable

    Asked by ElizaM on Monday, November 2, 2015

    Support for facing the inevitable

    I have run out of options. Nothing more oncologist can offer other than the possibility of a clinical trial. I have been so diligent about alternative supportive measures but am now SO discouraged since my last scan shows more growths and enlargements. I need someone to bemoan my state of mind with. Like those of us who have family members who just (thankfully) can't understand what we are going through, this is such a lonely road. I am trying to stay positive but finding it virtually impossible in light of these results today. Does anyone out there have resources of support counselling or therapy they can recommend, other than prayer and meditation which, once again, are solitary activities.

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    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Eliza M. Prayer is not a solitary activity. I truly believe that I am here today because of the prayers of others. When I got my second cancer, I called my daughter and asked her to go knock on the door of the pastors of the five churches that were in her neighborhood and ask for prayers from their prayer groups as well as her own congregation. I fully believe that I have received a miracle. I also believe that those prayers would have given me peace, if I were to complete the living process at that time.

      over 5 years ago
    • ElizaM's Avatar
      ElizaM

      I believe in the power of prayer also. I have put in a request with Unity online, and have so many others around me praying. I appreciate it all and know it has contributed to my still being here and the positive attitude I have been able to hang on to for these past 4 years.
      I too have all my ducks in a row. Will be having a "home funeral" which fits with my belief systems much better than the instant whisking away, since I truly believe the soul needs to be close to the body to release for 3 days after the initial departure. I have my chapel and crematorium picked out and will finalize the details this weekend when I can take my daughter to see what I've arranged. I've had discussions with my priest, and know my daughters will be supported during this whole process. It's good to get everything sorted out and it brings a sense of peace and completion, but it doesn't do much for the inner loneliness I am thinking we all have to endure. In many ways I can hardly wait to be in Christ's presence on the other side and I do get comfort from feeling supported spiritually. I study with a friend every evening, especially the Gospel of St. John which truly tells it the way it was/is, how super-sensibly aware folks were back then so understood everything that was said and that happened in a much clearer way than we can today with our dense-ness to the spiritual. I am comforted when I feel that spiritual support but it is fleeting at times and the hard physical reality takes a predominant place again. Thanks for letting me ramble. I feel safe to do that here and feel so very blessed.

      over 5 years ago
    • Braz's Avatar
      Braz

      Integrative and nutrition approaches hold great promise for those even with advanced cancer. Do your research; there is a vast body of nutrition based reasearch out there that conventional drug based medicine does not know about, or does not want you to know about. I recommend chrisbeatcancer.com as a start point on your journey, but there is so much more out there. Beware of those that want to sell you a magic bullet, as it takes effort and a radical new approach across many factors in your life to get the inevitable positive results. Not all of these people are quacks, most are very well grounded.

      over 2 years ago

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