• symtoms

    Asked by Pinky7 on Monday, February 18, 2013


    sometimes I get tired of all this pain and all the different symtoms. I feel my family doesn't believe that they are real. I think about giving up. I today has not been good. trying to stay strong.

    8 Answers from the Community

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    • gelica84's Avatar

      I understand, and unfortunately no one really understands but us,cancer victims, but you can only hope for some since of understanding from loved ones, I learned they quite don't understand, and don't know how to cope or they're simply scared they may say the wrong thing. Hope you feel better soon, and as What's Next members someone is always here to be a listening ear

      over 3 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      I know it gets tough, I've been through the whole thing 3 times. I think some family just get used to hearing us talk about our aches and pains and sometimes they just don't understand what it's like to have all these different side effects. As they say, you can't say "I understand" if you haven't been in my shoes. All of us here know what your going through.

      Stay tough, stay strong and just know that one day you will get through all this and start feeling better.

      Stop here and ask anytime you need help or to talk.

      over 3 years ago
    • Clyde's Avatar

      I hear you. Family can be tough. If it helps, find something you can do by yourself that you like and distracts you. Picture puzzles, video games, etc. Then you can retreat to something comfortable that makes you feel good without needing any reciprication. A pet is great to tallk with as well. They will love you no matter what your mood.

      over 3 years ago
    • SueRae1's Avatar

      Hugs. Being in treatment is hard, and all the medications we are on affect our emotional as well as our physical well being. We all have our bad days and good days but if you continue to feel down, speak with your oncologist and see if you can get a referral for a therapist and/or psychiatrist who specializes in treating cancer patients. The hospital I am being treated at has a 12 week program were cancer patients see a cognitive therapist to help us deal with the issues specific to be in treatment. I am now getting monthly booster sessions. They have really helped me a lot. I also got a pharmacological consult and am taking meds to help keep me on an even keel. Good luck, feel better.

      over 3 years ago
    • carm's Avatar

      Pinky7, I can tell you as an oncology nurse that gelica84 is right on the money because that is the biggest concern family and caregivers have; how to approach the topic. They don't understand, and what is worse is that they can't articulate that fact either. Sometimes it is best for you to ask them quite frankly, " are you having a problem sharing your feelings or concerns about my disease with me?" For them to get into that room, sometimes the patient is the one who can open that door. It may seem unfair but they are trying so hard to support you at the same time struggling with their own feelings. It can be very hard and some take the road of ignorance preferring to ignore an issue than trying to navigate a conversation that might do you more harm than good. You have an opportunity to teach them how to support you in a way that can help both you and your family. Don't give up on them just yet. They are like that new instrument that has the potential to create a passionate sound once you have tuned them with a patient hand. Best of luck to you, Carm RN.

      over 3 years ago
    • gwendolyn's Avatar

      We all have bad days, bad hours, and even bad weeks or months. If your family and friends can't or won't give you all the support you need you might benefit from some professional counseling, ideally with someone who has experience working with cancer patients. I certainly do. You need all the support you can get. One thing I do to give my family a "break" is to be sure and tell them when I'm having a relatively good day. They deserve to hear that, too. Also, there are plenty of people here on WN who can easily believe and understand what it feels like to feel pain, sickness, etc. every day for months and months.

      over 3 years ago
    • alivenwell's Avatar

      Well, if you are feeling symptoms, they are very real. You family doesn't seem to be able to grasp that concept. I have a sensitive dog who can really connect with me.

      over 3 years ago
    • Jodi's Avatar

      I know exactly how you feel. I felt that way and it really sucks. I know there is not anything others can do but there were days when I just wanted to MAKE them understand. I don't know why because I would not want anyone to feel what I was feeling but..... sometimes I just had "those" moments. It's difficult to explain to someone else. I got so tired of feel like XXX. It was never anything I could really explain and I felt others were thinking I was exaggerating. YES.... Stay Strong. I am telling you the days seem to drag on now but its been a year for me now and I look back and think... WOW, a year ago today I was thinking this would never end. Stay as positive as you can but remember.... it's okay to vent. It's okay to feel a little self pity and it's okay to be sick and tired or being sick and tired. reach out to us on this site whenever you need us.

      over 3 years ago

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