• Think of something that would have made you furious 5 years ago.......Would the same thing even matter today?

    Asked by GregP_WN on Tuesday, March 8, 2016

    Think of something that would have made you furious 5 years ago.......Would the same thing even matter today?

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    • HeidiJo's Avatar
      HeidiJo

      That is a very good question Greg. The answer is no, the same things would not matter to me today. I look at life so differently now. I have been through far worse than many of the daily issues I come across. I don't worry about the dust bunnies under the bed, and I stop and smell the roses, a lot!

      over 5 years ago
    • Ejourneys' Avatar
      Ejourneys

      Five years ago my partner and I were in the middle of H.e.l.l Year, which was filled with medical tests, incompetent practitioners (and competent ones), and misdirection of all sorts. I learned just how broken so many of our systems are -- not as a patient but as a caregiver. My experiences then taught me how to be an advocate, first for my partner and now for myself. I was furious as all get-out then, but that year also taught me to pick my battles. That lesson has also stood me in good stead as both caregiver and patient.

      Does that stuff still matter to me today? You bet it does. But I don't have the energy that I'd had then. My fury these days is of a quieter and deeper sort, and I continue to tilt at windmills when I feel it's warranted. But I (hope I) am not as naive now as I had been then.

      over 5 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      I was raised not to show emotion, no crying no laughing and definitely no anger. So my motto became I don't get angry I get even. I am still the same today however my getting even has more positive results. I have always been very slow to anger but watch out when I do get angry: things change.

      over 5 years ago
    • Carool's Avatar
      Carool

      Yes, not only do most of the same things anger me today, but I've added a towering stack of NEW things that infuriate me. And don't ask! Five years ago today was still many years post-diagnosis, so maybe this question doesn't relate to my situation. However, I'll concede that when I'm really upset about non-health-related matters, I do say to myself, "Stop it! At least it's not a cancer or another life-threatening disease." Putting things into that perspective does help me, at least until my attention focuses on what was making me furious. I'll probably get a heart attack or stroke and it'll be bye-bye without further ado..

      over 5 years ago
    • SandiA's Avatar
      SandiA

      I would say no. Five years ago I tended to be really hard on myself so if I made a mistake at work it would really bother me. I am no longer working. Had to leave work at the end of February due to some side effects but in the last year if I made little mistakes they were just that little mistakes. I was able to let little things go so much easier. If was funny too I posted a story about a dishwasher being delivered and it being broken so we ended up with no dishwasher for over a month. Something like that would have made me mad and would want a refund or discount or something but this time I didn't really care. I used a lot of paper plates and life went on.

      over 5 years ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      In many cases, and on most days, the answer is No. It takes bigger things usually to irritate me now. However, there are some things I am LESS patient with. Bad attitudes, woe is me, those kinds of things .... often just irritate me, especially when the "poor thing" doesn't have it bad at all.

      over 5 years ago
    • MMarie's Avatar
      MMarie

      Yes, the same things that made me furious five years ago still do today. But, cancer isn't the first major Trauma in my life. If anything, I have learned that EVERYTHING takes energy and to make sure I use it where I need to.

      over 5 years ago
    • lisahal's Avatar
      lisahal

      I am more angry because I have full blown menopause, hot flashes that could melt the artic more, have not slept in almost two years,not able to do the old things that I enjoyed, and cancer lurking inside me. I used to be cool as a cucumber but now I do not have patience for any nonsense and now I will tell you, plus I am Italian.

      over 5 years ago
    • geekling's Avatar
      geekling

      I have always been a slow burner but radiate heat once Ive caught.

      When I was sick, my life was totally out of control and handling much of anything was beyond me. I would complain about BIG stuff because my own life was reeling out of control.

      Im better now. Bad behavior still upsets me. These days, however, I am much more effective at complaint when I am at the brunt of such nonsense. Being sick made me into a piece of barely able to complain carrion. Im not so easy to peck at any more.

      over 5 years ago
    • debsweb18's Avatar
      debsweb18

      I don't stress as much about work overload. I figure it will still be there tomorrow and i don't kill myself (almost literally) to get it done like I used to.

      over 5 years ago
    • debsweb18's Avatar
      debsweb18

      I guess my answer is not to your question. However it is a major change in my life.

      over 5 years ago
    • cllinda's Avatar
      cllinda

      I don't know of anything, but I have learned to let things go. Especially after cancer. It's just not worth my time and energy to get upset over things I have no control over.

      over 5 years ago
    • Jouska's Avatar
      Jouska

      I agree, I rarely get angry any more, even on things I can control. It is not worth that negative energy. I have learned to recognize that feeling and work to minimize it, usually by asking myself if the issue causing it is worth that negativity or anger. And it usually isn't. Plus it doesn't feel good. It's that knickers in a knot feeling, as my grandmother used to say. And at one point I might have fed it, now I know it to be unpleasant energy and not worth my time. That was a huge epiphany for me. That doesn't mean I will tolerate something that is not ok or where I don't feel my needs are being taken into account. I just approach it in a calmer, more rational way. But little things don't matter. Waiting in a line - fine. Definitely not worth getting upset over. I want positivity in my life and strive to that to be my approach and outlook.

      over 5 years ago
    • Lauren65's Avatar
      Lauren65

      I'm a lot wiser and more aware than I was 5 years ago, but my answer is still yes. Until they CURE or better control this XXX, then yes, I will continue to be furious. But I refuse to allow it to control my life and how I live on a day to day basis. I have learned to become my own advocate, and know what questions to ask, and what I will and wont tolerate from doctors, etc. Let's just say my contacts and rolodex is bigger than Wrigley Field. :) I guess that is what comes from going through cancer THREE TIMES.

      over 5 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Greg you asked if the same things that made me furious 5 years ago make me furious now. That answer might be no. But the same things that made me furious four years ago make me furious this year. Why can't we elect an intelligent person for president.

      over 5 years ago
    • DoreenLouise's Avatar
      DoreenLouise

      Yes, if it made me furious, no if it just made me mad.

      over 5 years ago
    • Carool's Avatar
      Carool

      BoiseB, we CAN and HAVE elected an intelligent president: President Obama!

      over 5 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Carool Obama was one of the guys I was furious about four years ago. Kennedy was the last intelligent president in my humble opinion.

      over 5 years ago
    • Carool's Avatar
      Carool

      BoiseB, I'm amazed that anyone, even someone who dislikes President Obama, could think he's unintelligent. And, of course, Bill Clinton is no slouch in the brains department, either. George W. Bush, on the other hand....Okay, maybe we should can the politics when communicating here!

      over 5 years ago

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