• This is my life, described to a T.

    Asked by Julesmom on Thursday, February 22, 2018

    This is my life, described to a T.

    “It made me bankrupt, lose my job, gave me autoimmune diseases; but it also gave me more faith, weeded out relationships, and brought me closer to my sons. It made me realize that sometimes you don’t know how strong you are until you have no choice.”

    How would you say cancer has changed your life, social or otherwise?

    11 Answers from the Community

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    • lh25's Avatar

      Interesting question.

      For me, it caused me pain and fear. Left me with side-effects that while manageable, are annoying. Makes me still get tired long before I want to.

      And it showed me that I am surrounded with WONDERFUL people who really support me. That my faith can come through this intact and stronger. That my husband can be my rock when I need him to.

      over 1 year ago
    • Statto's Avatar

      It gave me SUPER POWERS.

      At first it made me crazy, because I went out and volunteered for everything. I didn't say no to anything. I was SUPERWOMAN. and I was so OVER EXTENDED and frazzled. Then I realized, I don't need to do that. Nobody I was helping appreciated it. I needed to be more selfish with my time and where I spend it.

      It gave me the super power to say NO THANK YOU. It's so cliche but Time is the most precious thing we have. More time with my husband, children, mother, sisters, close friends, my dog, hanging out in my bed or on my boat. Making time to do the things that I WANT to do and not what I feel I should be doing, or what I have been guilted into doing.

      It gave me the super power to let go of feeling guilty for not keeping up with certain difficult, hurtful people in my life. To feel like I needed to try harder, or feel guilty that I should be a better friend, daughter in law, etc to those people that have NEVER tried. Guess what....I DON'T have to try harder. It's ok. I want to be with people that enrich my life and make me laugh until I pee myself.

      The only super power I haven't figured out or gotten yet is the one that makes me lose weight. But I guess everyone has to have their Achilles heal. If that's it then I'll take it.

      Find your super powers.

      over 1 year ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar

      It took my job, but i didn't fight that too hard! It gave us less money, but it gave me peace of mind and time to do things i love.

      It helped me uncover some talents i didnt know i had and it has helped me develop skills i would have never sought otherwise.

      My cancer has taken me all around the country. It has given me experiences i would have never even drramed about.

      It has made me like myself better and it has strengthened my faith. Cancer has weeded out some friends, but it has brought me some incredible new ones.

      over 1 year ago
    • SandiA's Avatar

      It took my job, also gave me an autoimmune disease and a new hip. It taught me how strong I am. Also taught me what was really important in life.

      over 1 year ago
    • debbien507's Avatar

      It gave me Hashimoto's, two new hips, a new shoulder, a damaged heart, and an early retirement. It gave me an opportunity to live life to the fullest earlier than I had planned. It showed me that I dont have to put up with bad stuff because I dont want to. Time is precious; I can no longer waste it.

      over 1 year ago
    • Lundmusik's Avatar

      Only diagnosed three weeks ago, scans and surgery coming up. We had just moved to DC to be nearer our grandchildren. Wow feel blessed that we made the move and we are benefitting from wonderful Kaiser Permanente health system. Feel like meditation training in the online Headspace Program has prepared me to be content with this. My wife is getting into meditation as well,,, my diagnosis hit her pretty hard.

      over 1 year ago
    • junie1's Avatar

      I have pondered on this Question in the past when asked about what the cancer Took from me.
      What I can say,, I don't take Life for Granted anymore. Enjoy it to the fullest! I worked, went places, What did happen was I got so many set backs, that I was in and out of the hospital a lot! That's when it was all over,, I stared doing things for ME!. that's not being selfish,, it's being realistic!
      I did work,, didn't end up with any of the things others on here say they have,, & I'm sorry that it has effected people the way it has. I don't sweat the small stuff,, and only worry about the big stuff when it becomes something I can't handle by myself.
      Good Luck to all

      over 1 year ago
    • ChildOfGod4570's Avatar

      At first, I was angry and scared going through chemo; then I saw surgery as the climax where the rest would become easier from then on; Radiation was a little inconvenient but much more tolerable than chemo; and the pill is fine if I could just lose the weight I've put on since taking it. One thing I never realized would happen during this journey is I became more in tune with people who are facing cancer themselves. I have even been a source of support for a friend who got diagnosed with colon cancer a year after I was told I had breast cancer. We'd talk about the concerns that race thorugh each other's minds, and we truly understand each other more than ever now. We're both survivors: he almost 4 years since diagnosis, and me almost 5 years since diagnosis! HUGS and God bless.

      over 1 year ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar

      First let's list the things cancer took away. Physical things 1 two thirds of my esophagus 2) two thirds of my stomach. 3) my teeth 4) my uterus ( wasn't using it anyway) and the mental things 5) fear of cancer
      Now let's list the cancer gave me Physical 1) a more healthy lifestyle 2) gourmet cooking skills.(I went from one of the worst cooks in America to a healthy gourmet cook. Mental skills 1) I have better sense of Humor albeit a little on the dark side 3) because I had to work so hard to regain my mental skills, I continue to practice them I believe that this will help me as I age even if I never reach my pre-cancer level of mental skill. Spiritual 4) closer relationship with my children 5) ability to forgive 6) gratitude 7) love of my fellow man 8) stronger prayer life. 8) a closer relationship with God

      over 1 year ago
    • debbien507's Avatar

      So BoiseB, you reminded me of more...cance gave me dark sense of humor too. Imagine my shock when a PET can revealed that my uterus had been removed! I asked my doctors when that had happened and when they were planning on telling me!!! What doesnt kill you makes you stronger and makes you laugh too!

      over 1 year ago
    • TinaLeigh's Avatar

      I have not commented on anything in a long time I just read the daily emails. I have just always wanted to put the cancer in the past but I can't do that due to the bills, side effects, job and many other issues. This post made me want to comment. I read it and said I'm not alone. Cancer has caused many many financial issues, I guess bankruptcy should be told to people after you are told you have cancer. I wasn't aware how much money trouble I'd be in. Did anyone tell you? No one told me or talked to me about all the side effects after treatment. Did they talk to you about all the side effects? And my job, which offered very expensive and terrible insurance plan. I believe my biggest mistake was not taking medical leave when dr said you have cancer. I kept working through it all, chemo, radiation, surgeries, and all the dr appts. I didn't take time off from work. Is this why I have so many side effects now because I didn't slow down and take better care of myself? I don't know, what do you think? I was told during chemo by my employer that I had to be kept "in back" so people didn't see how I aweful I looked. I just ignored it and tried not to let it bother me but it did I continued to feel more angry at my employer and Several times a month my health continued to be brought up and I finally had it I couldn't take it anyone. I finally resigned. I believe they pushed me out, Was I costing them to much for insurance? I don't know just felt forced to resign. So I now am jobless, medical bills keep piling up and side effects not going away, nor letting up. These dr's need to start telling people along with you have cancer that you will have huge financial problems, continued daily side effects and problems with your job and will be forced out! I was not prepared for all this, were you?

      over 1 year ago

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