• Too much company

    Asked by CarolLHRN on Friday, December 23, 2011

    Too much company

    I have been out of the hospital for 2 weeks and I have been overwhelmed with company. I could really use some alone time but I'm not sure how best to tell my friends. I know they mean well but they don't seem to get it when I say I need some alone time. I don't want to be mean but I'm feeling like it's getting to the point that I have to. Any advice?

    3 Answers from the Community

    • susie81610's Avatar

      Hi Carol:
      Glad your home sorry you can't relax. I would just be straight forward with them and tell them thank you for everything but please give me a few days to recoup or have one of your best buddies stay with you and have them answer the phone/door and tell people that your resting and can't have visitors for a few days. Your true friends will understand and you know how important the rest is! I'm sure you will work it out your always solving our problems hehehe that was meant to be nice your advice is always good.
      Sweet Dreams

      almost 5 years ago
    • Cindy's Avatar

      My husband designated someone (our church office secretary) who he kept informed on my condition and asked all our friends to call that one person for updates on how I was doing to reduce the amount of phone calls and repeating over and over the same information. He was also good at telling people when I was resting and wasn't up to company or talking.

      almost 5 years ago
    • CherylHutch's Avatar

      I know this is a late response, but I had a friend who created a blog for me and all updates went to her, which she put on the blog, so everyone could access it rather than personal phone calls. We put on the blog that the phone would be unplugged during times of rest, so people knew it was nothing personal when no one answered the phone, even though they knew I was at home.

      I also had a designated friend, who everyone could call/email if they wanted to talk person to person or if the blog entries did not answer their questions. Steve, my designated friend, was very very good at saying "She's doing fine, but she has to get her quota of rest in, even though she thinks she should see everyone who wants to come visit. Keep monitoring the blog... I'll make sure Melinda updates it with hours that Cheryl is able to have visitors. Hope those hours will work with your schedule."

      That's all it took because no one could argue with the fact I needed rest, and no one could put their schedule as priority... either you fit with the one set up for me, or you got your news from the blog or calling Steve. That's just the way it was. Even when I was strong enough (or I thought I was) and said it would be ok to have visitors, Steve said "nope! We've come up with a schedule and in this case, schedules are not made to be broken." He was great :)

      (in Vancouver)

      almost 5 years ago

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