• Tough week

    Asked by LiveWithCancer on Saturday, May 11, 2019

    Tough week

    This has been a tough week. First, I was taken off of Opdivo - given a break - due to the side effects that have been accumulating all of a sudden (or I finally thought to mention them at one time...)

    Then, a friend who has been valiantly fighting her lung cancer passed away. She wrote her own facebook post announcing she had died and had her daughter post it after she drew her last breath. It's been sad - she has been described by many as a firecracker. She LIVED life.

    Today, I got word that the girl I went to Israel with got really bad scan results. She's been stable without treatment for two years and had just gone to scans every 6 months. Apparently, when her tumors started growing, they exploded in growth. Now, it appears they have grown into her heart and liver and there are new ones in her lungs too. And, some are pretty big. Her tumors have been slow growers until now.

    Most of the time, I rock along with a positive outlook, but this week has been hard emotionally.

    14 Answers from the Community

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    • carm's Avatar
      carm

      So sorry to hear this. Please lean on us... We are all here for you.

      2 months ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      as always, thanks, @carm! You are appreciated!

      2 months ago
    • po18guy's Avatar
      po18guy

      Also sorry. We are being tested. You know the answer. Faith, Hope and Love - the three theological virtues. From one of the strong women I admire most.

      Let nothing disturb you,
      Let nothing frighten you,
      All things are passing away:
      God never changes.
      Patience obtains all things
      Whoever has God lacks nothing;
      God alone suffices.

      -- St. Teresa of Avila

      2 months ago
    • BudBandit's Avatar
      BudBandit

      I'm so sorry LWC..po18guy found the words I was thinking but didn't know how to say.

      2 months ago
    • Carool's Avatar
      Carool

      LiveWithCancer, I, too, am so sorry. I hope you can soon return to Opdivo. And I know how hard it is to lose friends. You’ve been through so much sorrow recently, and my heart goes out to you.

      2 months ago
    • JaneA's Avatar
      JaneA

      When we have those weeks of bad news, it knocks us off our feet. But somehow, we get up and keep on going. You are always an inspiration - I hope that you feel better soon.

      2 months ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      We are sorry that this is finally reaching a pivot point for you. It's tough to realize that all of us are subject to be one of those people that you described. I have had similar feelings this past two weeks with similar circumstances in our circle of friends and relatives.

      2 months ago
    • 2943's Avatar
      2943

      Wow! Sometimes we have to wonder. Our ‘bucket is full’ and it just keeps coming. I have to head towards water in order to fill my lungs with new air and blow away the heaviness. Let us know how we can help you as you help so many.

      2 months ago
    • Lynne-I-Am's Avatar
      Lynne-I-Am

      Sorry you have had a particularly rough time this past week. Each time we lose a family member or friend a small piece of our heart goes with them and the void is never filled. Sending support and a hug for better days.

      2 months ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Oh LWC this is saddening news. Your week has sounded like my last three weeks all in one week. I will certainly keep you on my prayer list.
      @po18guy What a beautiful quote. It is said that if you want to make God laugh tell Him your plans. I try to turn my troubles over to God but I always seem to accompany them with detailed instructions on how to solve them.
      I always make lots of plans. But then plan A is always blocked as soon as your boots hit the ground. Plan B (where I am now) always s-u-c-ks and Plan C involves winning the lottery (I like that one :) not likely. So now I just wait for results and think about Plan D.

      2 months ago
    • coco1101's Avatar
      coco1101

      It is always so sad when we have a bunch of things pile up on us. As I said, you have had a very tough time for a while now. I wonder if it is possible for a Mother to ever get over losing a child? I don't really think so, though as I mentioned, with time - lots of time - the pain is still there, but it isn't sticking you in the side twisting like a knife.

      This weekend was Mother's Day, and we buried my Mom, too early if you ask me, but it was 31 years ago on May 7th - it was on Mother's Day in 1988. Hence, Mother's day is always a bummer...but there is no where to go , I can't escape the facts... sadly most of us face this reality - or some other. For a couple of old broads fighting Cancer, we still have a laugh or two to share. Like I told you... you must never feel too down, I am always just a little bit away, make time to hug you, lend a shoulder to cry on, insult the s_ _ t out of you, and hopefully we will laugh again soon - loudly (if that shoe fits...) together again.

      You are strong LWC, and while there are many things weighing on your shoulders right now, I hope and pray they will become lighter in the weeks to come. I can't have you so sad, have you talking about some things which we have to hope never to experience in our lives... Life is too precious. Just think of the battle we have waged just fighting to stay alive. hugs, coco1101

      2 months ago
    • coco1101's Avatar
      coco1101

      It is always so sad when we have a bunch of things pile up on us. As I said, you have had a very tough time for a while now. I wonder if it is possible for a Mother to ever get over losing a child? I don't really think so, though as I mentioned, with time - lots of time - the pain is still there, but it isn't sticking you in the side twisting like a knife.

      This weekend was Mother's Day, and we buried my Mom, too early if you ask me, but it was 31 years ago on May 7th - it was on Mother's Day in 1988. Hence, Mother's day is always a bummer...but there is no where to go , I can't escape the facts... sadly most of us face this reality - or some other. For a couple of old broads fighting Cancer, we still have a laugh or two to share. Like I told you... you must never feel too down, I am always just a little bit away, make time to hug you, lend a shoulder to cry on, insult the s_ _ t out of you, and hopefully we will laugh again soon - loudly (if that shoe fits...) together again.

      You are strong LWC, and while there are many things weighing on your shoulders right now, I hope and pray they will become lighter in the weeks to come. I can't have you so sad, have you talking about some things which we have to hope never to experience in our lives... Life is too precious. Just think of the battle we have waged just fighting to stay alive. hugs, coco1101

      2 months ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar
      BuckeyeShelby

      I'm so sorry you are facing all this at once. I'm sorry about your the friend you lost and that another one has had a turn for the worse. Yes, you are strong, but even the strongest needs to have that moment when you scream into the night. Many hugs. And purrs from my kitty, Ruskin 'cause purrs help everything...

      2 months ago
    • Bug's Avatar
      Bug

      Sigh. When it rains it pours. I'm so sorry to hear this. It's a lot for one person to bear. Thinking of you and saying prayers and sending a warm hug.

      about 1 month ago

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