Be specific. When people tell you they'd like to visit, tell them what time and for how long. You can also see if your hospital has a policy where you can make a list of OK'd visitors. When my husband was inpatient last time they said family was fine during visiting hours, but anyone else had to be ok'd by me or hubby. Try to see if one person in your family can act as your "social secretary" while you are hospitalized and schedule people so it's not overwhelming.
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Visitors while inpatient
Asked by CarolLHRN on Monday, November 7, 2011
Visitors while inpatient
I am preparing for surgery next month. Friends and family are insisting on visiting. I really don't want a bunch of people sitting in my room staring at me while I am recovering. Anyone have tips on limiting guests and visiting time?
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When I had my surgery, I told family and friends that I would let them know when I felt up to visits. I had my cell phone, and would call them instead. That way our 'visit' was not interrupting medical care or meals or walks, etc. Just get the word out on how you want to handle things and hopefully they will see it your way.
My husband has been in the hospital 3 times over the past 2 years and didn't want visitors. I sent an email and put it on facebook actually and made some calls.....and many hospitals have care pages that can be set up. I also told my mom to please tell family...basically what was said was what was going on and that he did not wish for visitors but that we knew how much people cared.
One small humor note...(I guess once you've been through this, you do have to laugh a bit)
One friend showed up anyway. When she got there, I gave her a big hug but her timing was off...the colostomy nurse was on her way in to show my husband how to use his new bag...she shot out of there faster than I would have guessed.
One other note: our daughter does the Relay for Life every year in hobor of her dad. I did pass along that if anyone wants to do anything, to please make a donation to Relay, as we needed nothing but to find a cure...
I know this is moot at this point since you've had your surgery, but when you wrote "I really don't want a bunch of people sitting in my room staring at me while I am recovering." it reminded me of my hospital stays. I basically said what you wrote. Sure, a pop-in is nice but I didn't want to feel like I had to entertain anyone. I tend to be very quiet when I'm going through rough stuff. I'm not rude but I'm not chatty either. I hope that others who read your post feel comfortable being specific with their own RULES.