• Waiting for surgery

    Asked by lindi143 on Monday, April 27, 2015

    Waiting for surgery

    We are now waiting on the surgery date trying to forget about it since it is several weeks off. Since it was so stessful waiting the last few weeks. We feel exhausted.

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    • cllinda's Avatar
      cllinda

      Yes, it is hard to deal with all that you are going through. You probably don't sleep well at night because of the "what ifs" and other things that go along with cancer. Remember to take a deep breathe once in a while, and use this time before surgery to catch up on things around the house, treat yourselves to a movie or something else that you want to do, and enjoy a little life while you can.

      Since your date for surgery is a few weeks off, it may be harder to wait. In my case, everything happened so fast that later, it was hard to understand what the big rush was. I had been diagnosed in October, first lumpectomy in October, 2nd lumpectomy in November, port installed and then chemo started December 12th. I should have waited until after the holidays but I just went with what the doctors were telling me to do.

      So sometimes things can be too slow or too fast dealing with cancer. Remember to breathe. Hugs to you.

      over 4 years ago
    • cam32505's Avatar
      cam32505

      If it helps, now would be a good time to get things in order around the house, banking, etc. You will probably need some help with household activities, so it might be good to prepare meals, grocery shop, look for volunteers to help once the treatment starts. There will be a lot of scheduled and unscheduled appts, so you may need help with driving. Also, use this time to regain your composure after hearing of the diagnosis and regroup. I wish you well with the journey you are just beginning.

      over 4 years ago
    • lindi143's Avatar
      lindi143

      Thank you both so much for the encouraging words.

      over 4 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      Buy the Book Radical Remission and read it together as it's really hopeful. Also start evaluating his lifestyle etc. and see if you want to make any significant changes for good health.

      over 4 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      One more thing.....I like to look at things in different ways. Even though he has prostate cells that are behaving badly and NOT dying on cue ALL the rest of his cells in EVERY ORGAN are STILL functioning FINE....SO They need to keep on staying normal......It's just one organ and he is healthy every place else... FOCUS on that !!

      over 4 years ago
    • BELLA2013's Avatar
      BELLA2013

      what helped me in the wait was knowing i trusted my decision and my doctor. i spent my time
      doing my normal daily things and keeping up with my activities. the most frustrating time was when i was alone and had time to think. try to concentrate on the plans for recovery ... it makes the time go by faster...

      best wishes

      jim

      over 4 years ago
    • msesq's Avatar
      msesq

      My husband is scheduled for 6/2 and we are also holding our breath waiting for surgery and the aftermath. I am trying to get my husband to do some meditation as he isn't sleeping very well. Good luck with your husband's surgery!

      over 4 years ago
    • lindi143's Avatar
      lindi143

      I have been unable to sleep much at all this week. I think it is settling in what we are facing. I would much prefer it to be me it is so hard watching him go thru this. It is catching up to me and the waiting is bad. My poor stomach will never be the same. I did go to my Dr and she was very supportive. She said we will get thru this and after your husband is better we will go into your issues. She knew I could not handle any more.

      over 4 years ago

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