• We all have a right to be kind of ticked off because we have cancer.

    Asked by BugsBunny on Wednesday, December 11, 2019

    We all have a right to be kind of ticked off because we have cancer.

    But would you say all of the chemo and radiation has caused you to be a mean person? Short temper, fly off the handle at everyone for not much of a reason? I used to not be this way but now it's like I can't control it.

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    • Julesmom's Avatar

      I wouldn't say that I'm worse overall, everyday, but there are days that I can go to a dark place really quickly. Nobody wants to be around when those days come. I didn't used to do that.

      about 1 year ago
    • po18guy's Avatar

      There tends to be rather poor mental health support for cancer patients. The focus s entirely on the disease. Are you on any type of steroid? No? Then, do look into counseling or some other method of dealing with an unwanted reality. But, also bear in mind that you are a survivor and 103 souls in the US today are not - they were killed suddenly and without warning in traffic collisions.

      Do you have a family tradition, cultural practice, belief system or religion that can help? If not, then consider seeking one that works for you. If you find no satisfaction, keep searching. As a survivor, you have been given the blessing of life. Anger should not ruin that gift.

      about 1 year ago
    • JaneA's Avatar

      Chemo can cause hormonal changes. Depending on if and where you had radiation, the radiation can "destroy" our ovaries and instant menopause.

      And then, there's the cancer diagnosis - it's a huge adjustment to learn to live again. I blow up at our old, sick cat who isn't motivated to use the litter box anymore. I don't hurt it but I cuss. And that anger hurts me so I've had one of those magic moments where I realized that she would use doggie pee pads and I just take a deep breath if she has an accident.

      Seriously, deep breathing helps me past those moments more than anything. Breathe in slowly, and use twice as much time to exhale. It does wonders.

      about 1 year ago
    • Created07's Avatar

      I have seen small children going though cancer at my hospital. I have seen mothers have to have someone take care of their small children while they had treatment at my hospital. I have seen old people have to wait for a taxi after treatment at my hospital. I have seen all of these, and more, Smile at me. Angry...no. I am too busy being thankful.

      about 1 year ago
    • Leuky's Avatar

      I have just posted on another question that my moods run all over the place dealing with this, and during Christmas. I will be mad, depressed, crying, screaming, and followed by laughter and delight. So I'm all over, dangerous to be around honestly.

      about 1 year ago
    • po18guy's Avatar

      Consider a free webinar: https://www.lls.org/events/understanding-the-emotional-effects-of-cancer
      Even though it is the leukemia and lymphoma foundation, the psychological effects are the same. A few details:

      Topics Covered

      1. The impact of a cancer diagnosis on your physical, psychological, spiritual and social health
      2. Benefits of psychosocial care for cancer patients and their loved ones
      3. Psychosocial resources for cancer patients


      Daniel C. McFarland, DO
      Medical Oncologist/Psychiatrist
      Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences
      Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center
      New York, NY

      about 1 year ago
    • Molly72's Avatar

      So, what's wrong with a little anger, or sadness, or any other "negative" feelings?
      They are simply a normal part of the game of life. Of course if these feelings get out of hand,
      then something needs to be done.
      Most of us can handle these hopefully, SHORT lived spells without running to an expensive therapist. We can kvetch all we what right here.
      We have been thru enough @*$& and are pretty tough.

      Leuky, love your posts, they are quite succinct and I wish more folks had your attitude!

      about 1 year ago
    • cards7up's Avatar

      I've learned that since going through my cancer journey, I don't take or listen to any BS! sorry but that's the only way I can describe it. I will try my best to be tactful but there are just some people that push you over the edge. I'm not mean by any sense of the word, I enjoy helping people and being friendly to one and all. So thankfully, it's not like an every day occurrence!

      about 1 year ago

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