I am really looking forward to Thanksgiving dinner this year because I will be having surgery shortly after and it will be my "one" holiday this year. Cancer has talk me to really enjoy and experience the day. I have always been someone who lived life to the fullest. The fullest, however, was literally that: my calendar was full from the moment I woke until the moment my head hit the pillow.
This year I will look forward to mashing potatoes and getting up early to get the turkey in the oven. I will sit and watch the Macy*s parade and enjoy the excitement of Santa arriving at the end. Cleaning up won't be a chore but rather something to do together with my family.
I wil be dealing with the issues Karen brought up at Christmas time. I have decided to really chose who I want to spend time with and I will lay out expectations early. "I will love to join you but I will probably only stay an hour." "Please don't make anything special for me as I don't have much of an appetite." I think as long as you are clear ahead of time, it can make the holidays more than tolerable. Afterall, how many people can honestly say there wasn't something before the cancer diagnosis that didn't bother them about the holidays! I know I can't!