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    What are your concerns about Thanksgiving, and how can we help each other deal with them?

    Asked by KarenG_WN on Monday, November 14, 2011

    What are your concerns about Thanksgiving, and how can we help each other deal with them?

    When dealing with cancer, going to Thanksgiving dinner is not as easy as the usual going to Thanksgiving dinner. There may be a lot changes from your usual routine. Perhaps if we talk about some of those concerns, we can help each other get through it - and perhaps give some words of wisdom for dealing with those nosy relatives who can't help but give their (well-intentioned) two-cents about the "Big C."

    Some things to consider - how to explain why you are bald/thin/not eating to the youngsters? How to cope with cancer-caused changes in your usual plans (such as travel)? Dealing with saying "no" to certain foods or beverages? How to not feel guilty about excusing yourself so you can rest?

    What are some strategies for dealing with these situations? Any other concerns?

    5 Answers from the Community

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    • CarolLHRN's Avatar

      I am really looking forward to Thanksgiving dinner this year because I will be having surgery shortly after and it will be my "one" holiday this year. Cancer has talk me to really enjoy and experience the day. I have always been someone who lived life to the fullest. The fullest, however, was literally that: my calendar was full from the moment I woke until the moment my head hit the pillow.

      This year I will look forward to mashing potatoes and getting up early to get the turkey in the oven. I will sit and watch the Macy*s parade and enjoy the excitement of Santa arriving at the end. Cleaning up won't be a chore but rather something to do together with my family.

      I wil be dealing with the issues Karen brought up at Christmas time. I have decided to really chose who I want to spend time with and I will lay out expectations early. "I will love to join you but I will probably only stay an hour." "Please don't make anything special for me as I don't have much of an appetite." I think as long as you are clear ahead of time, it can make the holidays more than tolerable. Afterall, how many people can honestly say there wasn't something before the cancer diagnosis that didn't bother them about the holidays! I know I can't!

      almost 9 years ago
    • mspinkladybug's Avatar

      I am actually cooking this year i have always cooked but after treatment was over the kids and hubby took me out for dinner they do not want me to stress over it. so I am looking forward to cooking my first thanksgiving dinner since beating cancer. it will be emotional as we all have something to be very thankful for

      almost 9 years ago
    • Elizabeth's Avatar

      I have Chemo the day after Thanksgiving so I'm just going to stick with immediate family to make sure I don't get sick. I will be making chicken instead of Turkey this year because my mom doesn't like Turkey and well I can't eat it all. After that some light games. I agree a low key holiday will be good this year. NO need to get tiered before Chemo.

      almost 9 years ago
    • cranburymom's Avatar

      I will have my surgery earlier that week, so my husband and kids will be preparing a dinner - a quite scary thought :-O

      almost 9 years ago
    • PhillieG's Avatar

      The concerns with the past few years have been more with the "Joy" of gathering. I've been fortunate to not have major chemo concerns the past few years. In the past, I've had to plan ahead since my chemo would often cause stomach problems and I would ask if I could skip a week of treatment. My Onc always been accommodating.

      almost 9 years ago

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