• What do you do, when you feel all alone?

    Asked by Carol-Charlie on Thursday, February 21, 2013

    What do you do, when you feel all alone?

    I used to feel that way a lot. Now I don't!

    9 Answers from the Community

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    • nancyjac's Avatar
      nancyjac

      Well I'm sure in what context you mean all alone. I am rarely alone and actually cherish the rare times I have the house to myself or have some "me" time when I can be alone. There are times when I have felt alone but it had nothing to do with cancer. Usually it is just a situation in which there is poor communication. When people don't share how they feel, what they are thinking, how they react or perceive things, that is when I think people tend to feel all alone.

      over 4 years ago
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      nancyjac

      ooops, meant to type "not" sure.

      over 4 years ago
    • derbygirl's Avatar
      derbygirl

      I don't think I've ever felt alone but I do cherish the time I have to myself. I know that I'm not alone because of the people who have been there for me and who keep telling me they are always there for me. In fact. it's been tough for me to get some Me Time because everyone wants to be there for me all the time. I know they mean well but I really love personal time to myself to just relax.

      over 4 years ago
    • Carol-Charlie's Avatar
      Carol-Charlie

      I sure wasn't very clear was I? I guess I mean, I felt like I didn't belong. - that no one cared. Then I started reaching out to others and began to feel differently. It's web sites like this one that accomplished a lot of the "I am loved" from humans for me..... I first felt loved at 37... when it dawned on me that God loved me in spite of things I'd done wrong. Two years later I met Tom and we married when I turned 40. Almost 30 years ago. Even when things are darkest... The dawn of happiness is just around the corner!

      over 4 years ago
    • Queen_Tatiana's Avatar
      Queen_Tatiana

      When I feel the great need to be alone I usually head to my favorite coffee/tea house to sit in an overstuffed comfy chair and write in my journal. After a while I put my pen down and simply watch all the people coming in and out and try to imagine what is happening in their life today, and so any of them have a husband/wife/partner with cancer. Then I go back to writing in my journal.

      I also like to take the dogs to the dog park or the beach to walk forever--poor Lucy can hardly make it back to the car she's getting so old (12) and she's a big dog with arthritis. I also like to go to the movie by myself.

      over 4 years ago
    • joyringland's Avatar
      joyringland

      how do you handle that?

      over 4 years ago
    • Kathy's Avatar
      Kathy

      I had written this week that I was feeling alone with my return to work. I have learned that feeling alone and keeping to myself and waiting for others to make the first move - just gets me more lonely. I forced myself to be more chatty and open and they were friendly back. I've been ready and wanting some easy outings with my girlfriends and I will call them. All I have to do is ask. They can't read my mind.

      over 4 years ago
    • Carol-Charlie's Avatar
      Carol-Charlie

      Well Joyringland... I try to do something worthwhile. I write poetry! I clean house, or bake something special I try to write poetry that makes people feel better. Sometimes they tell me it makes them cry... but that they feel better. I know I always have God with me. And sometimes He has gotten on my case by putting a thought in my head that just keeps replaying. After 9-11 I kept playing the phrase.... Write the Poem! over and over in my head. Finally I sat down and literally typed the words that flew into my brain. I can't tell you the people that told me their daughter, or their son, brother.... was lost that day in NYC... I found that the words He gave me to type hit home with so many. So what do I do.... I sit and listen and wait for what he wants me to do.

      over 4 years ago
    • 4ellieluv2's Avatar
      4ellieluv2

      I am just recently diagnosed so I am overwhelmed and numb at times....but I feel all alone
      I consciously try not to go to that dark place and think of only positive outcomes...take a mental walk on the beach..take the wonderful dog on a little walk....plus being able to go to
      this web site and express my feelings etc....

      over 4 years ago

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