• What do you say when friends say " but you look so good! "

    Asked by Sugarshine on Monday, October 29, 2012

    What do you say when friends say " but you look so good! "

    Even though you just found out you have a new " spot" on your liver and your CA 19 9 is increasing and you feel like 20 miles of rough road? Do I apologize because I try not to look on the outside like I feel on the inside?

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    • po18guy's Avatar
      po18guy

      I ask them, "Well, what did i look like back during chemo?" The usual response is a downward glance and shuffling feet.
      Really, I just say "thanks" and blow the rest of it off, as I have said the same thing to cancer patients earlier in my life.

      over 8 years ago
    • Onoi11's Avatar
      Onoi11

      Let's face it. It is difficult for anyone to know what to say to someone with a life threatening illness. I judge words by the obvious good intentions behind them. When people don't say anything to me about how fabulous I look, I assume the worst, lol!

      over 8 years ago
    • Toops' Avatar
      Toops

      Sometimes I find it frustrating. Therefore I use this line often. It's a daily struggle being in pain or feeling sick on the inside while you look fine on the outside. It seems to sum it up.

      over 8 years ago

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