• What gives you comfort & how?

    Asked by Ydnar2xer on Wednesday, October 3, 2012

    What gives you comfort & how?

    (I know I've been on this site a lot lately, but please cut me some slack...) My beautiful pink hair (!) is now falling out. I totally expected it--or so I thought--but still had to shed a few tears over it. I immediately went to hug my two dogs, who gave me love, regardless.

    What/who gives you comfort & how?

    14 Answers from the Community

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    • nobrand's Avatar

      In a similar vein to you, I reach for something fuzzy. I have a couch full of fuzzy pillows and blankets. On those days when I feel the worst, I just lay in it and forget my troubles. It's the small things!

      about 5 years ago
    • teddyfuzz's Avatar

      No slack needed Ydnar2xer. We're happy to have you here! I shaved my head like GIJane two days before chemo so I thought I was ready too. But, when it actually starts coming out I think the reality of what's going on kind of sets in.

      Dogs are one of the best things for making you feel better and they don't care what you look like. I had quite a few pity parties when I was going through treatment. I know this is crazy but I would watch the Jerry Springer Show. Some of the gusts on that show were so absurd that it would make me laugh. I would think "Good Lord, I may have cancer but I'm going to get better. The people on this show are doomed for the rest of their lives." And having a great family and good friends spend time with you doesn't hurt either. Also, ice cream. Definitely ice cream.

      about 5 years ago
    • teddyfuzz's Avatar

      Sorry, I meant "guests", not "gusts". Can I still blame it on chemo brain 5 months after treatment?? LOL!

      about 5 years ago
    • sjjohnson1's Avatar

      I shaved my head when my hair started falling out. Husband said we did it too early, but I took charge of that situation. I have a little dog too and she is a lot of company for me. I quit work and stay at home now and think I need to find a hobby or do some volunteer work. I feel very blessed sometimes and just down and out sometimes. Hope you are doing well. And, that hair will be back before you realize!

      about 5 years ago
    • ticklingcancer's Avatar

      Xanax and tequila?? Just kidding....

      When I went through treatment it was my daughter. Everyday after school the first thing she would do is come check on me, to see how I was feeling. I was pretty sick but no matter how I felt I would always tell her I was doing just fine. She would crawl up next to me and just hang out. Just to be close to me. My wife...My Grandmother...I could go on and on. Of course my dogs, they always knew when I didn't feel well.

      about 5 years ago
    • ticklingcancer's Avatar

      Oh and you get all the slack you need. This is a place for us to come together to help each other feel better. You spend all the time on here you want.

      about 5 years ago
    • lynn1950's Avatar

      It has been a while since I was in the middle of active treatment. I listened to relaxation tapes to help me fall asleep. Jon Kabat Zinn CDs helped. A little later, when I was really depressed, I would listen to Jackson Browne songs. They would help me to bawl, and afterward I would feel much better. Seriously, during this time, Xanax really helped me, as did Clonopin, therapy, and antidepressants.

      I was really depressed........

      about 5 years ago
    • karen1956's Avatar

      I visited breast cancer.org quite often when going through treatment....it was my "support group" as I didn't like the in person ones near me.....I found a group of gals who were doing the same chemo as me and it was nice to hear from others who were going through the same thing....for me, "normalcy" was what kept me going...I worked throughout Dx and Tx....also I still had 2 kids at home and 1 kid in college who needed me...l hated my wig so I didn't wear it, but wore hats instead and when I was done chemo, I went "au naturale"....I couldn't stand looking in the mirror and seeing someone who wasn't me (my wig was lighter than my hair and straight and my hair was coarse and thick and wavy...the wig was gorgeous, but it wasn't me).....(((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))

      about 5 years ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar

      Half the "fun" of this site is seeing familiar names and what is on that person's mind! And we all have our ups and downs. Today my day is going well. I'm getting moved away from the biggest germ factory @ work. My oncologist said it should be fine, but I was scared. My boss made it happen, and I'll be moving probably later today until treatment is over. You have your puppies. I have my kitties. My non-social kitty has been spending more time w/me. And my social one tries to sleep on my head. I've gotten my share of cat fur damp from sniffling into one of them. And I know once my hair really starts going, I'm likely to be upset. My hair was my best feature -- I was able to do a Locks of Love donation well before chemo started. 1st chemo was 9/27, so I'm anticipating over the weekend or maybe early next week to start seeing the follicle effects. I also find comfort here. Lots of great people. Some to commiserate with, some to laugh with. Sometimes the same person in the same post!

      about 5 years ago
    • packerbacker's Avatar

      Hi Ydnar2xer!
      Like BuckeyeShelby, I also have to cats, one non-social, and one a little more social. The more social one comes to sit by me when I'm upset or senses when I'm not having a good day, so he gets loving, which takes the focus off me and I get some loving too. Even the non-social kitty comes by me more lately, and I enjoy giving her loving, too. I have to say, though, my biggest comfort comes from my hubby. He's a little "soft and cuddly," so I take advantage of that! Another thing that gives me comfort is doing my beading (a little harder with the peripheral neuropathy), which helps me feel like I'm accomplishing something and I can give it away to bring a smile to someone's face! Being on this site also helps me to see I'm not alone and also brings me comfort. Many hugs coming your way!

      about 5 years ago
    • VivianT's Avatar

      I knitted several afghans during the time between diagnosis and a month or so after chemo. It seemed that I was always waiting for someone or something. The knitting helped to pass the time and the softness of the yarn felt good on my hands.

      about 5 years ago
    • PinkRibbons' Avatar

      I'll never forget the day my hair started to fall out, it was my sons 17th birthday. First I started balling in my bedroom for a good half hour, then I got it together and went in my 10 year old sons room and said Wanna have some fun and play Barber?? I gave him scissors and said have at it! We were laughing and I was trying my hardest not to breakdown, it was the best haircut I've ever gotten and a memory that I will cherish always. I always kept a sense of humor around my boys, I never wanted them to see me scared. I got my comfort from my husband and kids and my Pomeranian Cheeto , he was with me every step of the way. It was important to me to be treated the same as i was before, I did not want people feeling sorry for me, but they did and they all meant well. You learn all of a sudden that Little things really mean alot!! Best of Luck to you

      about 5 years ago
    • Lirasgirl33's Avatar

      I found comfort in God. In all the blessings he has given me. I've been blessed with family and friends that have given me so much love and support. Knowing so many people have your back makes a lot of fears go away. I find respite from the cancer world by hanging out with friends. I tell them they are my escape from cancer, time we can spend laughing, joking around, just like before my diagnosis. Whatnext has been a way for me to keep them all informed of my progress so I don't have to constantly be talking about it. Using this site as a kind of diary has proved to be therapeutic and helpful.

      My boyfriend gave me a sock monkey as a gift years ago. This little guy has been my companion through hospital visits, chemo days and days spent home alone. I have a warm furry blanket too that my mom gave me as a gift years ago and everytime I use it, it's like getting a warm hug. :) I also have my kittens. It used to be 4 of them since I was fostering 3 of them. 2 of the 3 have been adopted so now I'm left with my Lily and Charlie. Kittens always know how to comfort me. :) Music has been constant throughout treatment. I have many mixes on my iPod. My laid back mix, the good day mix, the sweet dreams mix, beach mix, etc. I've used them to get myself out of funks. To mentally fight side effects of treatment, moments when I was feeling down, to relax, and even to help with getting me to sleep.

      about 5 years ago
    • Reel's Avatar

      If I got down I could always call my sister. She has always had a lot of health problems and I would find myself working to make her feel better. That would usually make me feel better. If I was in bad shape, she would seem to know and let me complain. We helped each other out a lot. She had a stroke a few months ago, and although she knows me, she can't talk on the phone and doesn't know I have cancer. I'm struggling to get over my loss of support. I miss her. She had another stroke this morning.

      almost 5 years ago

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