• What gives you purpose, joy, peace?

    Asked by nancyjac on Sunday, December 9, 2012

    What gives you purpose, joy, peace?

    I've always been an animal lover so once I retired I had the time to volunteer with animal rescue organizations. I currently manage a sanctuary for close to 100 special needs cats. That job is physically and emotionally more challenging than the jobs I had during my career days, but it brings me much more joy and peace than any job I had in my money making career. If you would like to get a glimpse of what gives me purpose at this stage of my life, we have a web site at http://shadowcats.net/index.php and a facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/ShadowCatsRescue

    Since this is a cancer forum, we naturally tend to focus on that. But having a passion, a purpose that transcends them impact of cancer on our lives can make living with cancer and it's treatment eminently more bearable. What gives you purpose and joy and peace?

    14 Answers from the Community

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    • gwendolyn's Avatar

      My children, aged 11 and 16, give me purpose. My dog gives me joy and peace. (Half-)Kidding! The children bring me joy and peace, too.

      almost 4 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      Good question Nancy, for me after my third round with cancer I decided I wanted to get back to Motorcycle Riding. I have ridden bikes since age 10, and for the prior 18 years I had not had one. So I went and got one and my brother in law and I and some buddies hit the road every chance we get. There is a saying in the biking community that says "only a biker knows the joy a dog feels with his head hanging out of the window".

      I know that feeling!!

      Thanks for posting

      almost 4 years ago
    • Harry's Avatar

      Nancy, you're right. I am not my cancer. I enjoy fly-fishing, genealogy, reading, etc. Of course, there are the dogs (I've only got two rescues but they are a handful :-) ). My daughters are grown and live far away now, but we stay close. We talked to both last night on Skype. I told them about my latest bout with cancer.

      Still, nothing beats the peace that comes from convincing a trout to rise to a fly on a beautiful river.

      almost 4 years ago
    • ticklingcancer's Avatar

      My Daughter!! She is everything to me. My wife, who helped me through my cancer journey. My dogs!! Nothing like a dog to greet you after a long tough day.

      almost 4 years ago
    • karen1956's Avatar

      My family, baking cookies and sharing the cookies with others; cooking for people who need a meal; volunteering for breast cancer organizations doing health fares and speaking engagements, being paired up with someone newly diagnosed and providing support....travelling to Israel in the summers... I now have time to volunteer since I only work 3 days/week, that I didn't have when I worked full-time :)

      almost 4 years ago
    • Peroll's Avatar

      My wife,my dogs (3), my kitties (2 one trying to help me type right now) and beating the @#$% out of cancer!!!!!!! I also like my job and feel I have things left to contribute in life like helping others here at WhatNext.

      almost 4 years ago
    • Queen_Tatiana's Avatar

      As the care provider for my husband (Peroll) I would say that he finds a lot of joy in his dogs and cats. As much as he hates the chemo, he loves coming home to his 3 dogs and 2 cats who adore him. They greet him at the door and welcome him home with all the love they have to give, which measures in the gazillion tons. I think he also finds a lot of joy in his work as an engineer and even through 8 years of cancer he has a great employeer that allows him to do what he can when he can and doesn't touch his salary, etc. He finds pride in contributing to his team at work and feels repsected for his knowledge and talents.

      As a care provider i find joy and peace in my hobby as a costumer (Regency, Victorian, Edwardian, etc, 1940's, 1950's, etc.) It is so important as a care provider to have a hobby I love. The first season of chemo I taught myself to knit and knitted shawls for all the nurses and my book club--this was such a stress release for me. I have used chemo to hand sew a Regency gown. I also loe my work and find so much peace at work, where I also am a care provider but in a completely different realm.

      almost 4 years ago
    • SpunkyS's Avatar

      What a great question.
      I have been asking myself something along this line, but not answering it very well.
      I love teaching nursing students, and am glad to be back at work. Also being present to the elderly where I teach clinicals. I am thinking though, that I need to do more with my cancer experience. Our cancer care center needs more work with spirituality, so that may be an area to focus on.

      almost 4 years ago
    • lynn1950's Avatar

      I am happy to be alive. My family and job bring me great joy (I teach.). Then there is reading and the dogs and the cat and the horse and hot springs swimming (even in winter) and gardening and crocheting and playing on the computer and movies and friends and yoga and this has no particular order. Life is good.

      almost 4 years ago
    • JennyMiller's Avatar

      My family gives me purpose, joy and peace -- my husband who has been a fantastic caregiver -- my son & daughter who have given us great pride in their success in the medical field and who are always there for us -- our five grandchildren who have brought great joy into our lives -- our three great grandchildren who have intensified that joy. I babysit for two of the great grandchildren (ages 4 1/2 & 1 1/2) two days a week -- lots of purpose and joy in the bonding -- and lots of "Barney" and "Disney Jr"!!! My faith gives me peace. Then, there is my dog - a small Chocolate Pomeranian - who is the center of our home. He also was my caregiver. When I was bald, I would wake up at night and find him sleeping on my pillow wrapped around my head trying to keep it warm. When I would lie on the couch after chemo, he would lie on my chest and give kisses to try to make me feel better. My priorities are so changed from those years that I was an Executive in the Corporate World. I am so glad that there is no more traveling -- no more Board Room Meetings -- no more career stress!!!!! -- I am happy to settle for "Barney" on the TV and changing diapers!! -- and playing with my sweet little dog -- and spending time with my best friend who also happens to be my husband. Thanks nancyjac for posting a question that brings all these blessings to mind.

      almost 4 years ago
    • oceanblue24's Avatar

      What a great thought provoking question! I'd have to say my Lord & His word, my husband who understands me even when I'm health obsessing! Our dog Maggie Mae. She is a Cairnland terrior, a mix of Cairn & Westie. She was always nearby throughout my treatments. We have no children of our own but we have 7 God-children & oodles of niece & nephews & great & great-great ones too. I've done child care in our home for over 35 years so have many surrogate kids also. I semi-watch my 9 yr old great niece & have done so since she was 9 weeks old. I love watching her grow up & we go to her school functions etc. Wow again thanks for the question! I didn't realize how much I have to be thankful for!!!! And I didn't even put all down here!!! Blessings to all!!!

      almost 4 years ago
    • maralyn's Avatar

      wow, loaded question!!! i know that my grandchildren give me purpose, joy, peace and so much more!!! i have learned over the years that since my family is (has been and prob always will be) a bit on the dysfunctional side,,, i can choose my family,,, and i have found amazing families through my church, my friends, and the 12 steps groups that i attend!!! sometimes life is "what you make of it", and i just have to remember to love all unconditional and remember esp on this journey, to be grateful and humble and to accept help and always say "thank you"!!! God can do amazing things in my life "when" i let Him!!! "Bless You", for starting my day with "Gratitude"

      almost 4 years ago
    • rlclark93654's Avatar

      I would have to say the fact that I am blessed with a wonderful, incredible family! That is what gives me peace and having cancer could never diminish that no matter the outcome!

      almost 4 years ago
    • Ydnar2xer's Avatar

      I have a non profit for Bremerton High School--a mostly low-income, diverse inner-city school where a lot of grads can't go to college because it costs too much. Since 2008 we have given 8 scholarships of $14,000 each, giving the opportunity of further education to 8 low-income kids. As a former teacher and a life-long learner myself, I that totally ROCKS me!

      almost 4 years ago

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