• What tips would you give someone who is about to be a caregiver for someone with cancer?

    Asked by GregP_WN on Monday, November 18, 2019

    What tips would you give someone who is about to be a caregiver for someone with cancer?

    Caregivers or patients can answer, let's hear your tips.

    9 Answers from the Community

    9 answers
    • po18guy's Avatar

      Take time out. If you collapse from stress - quite possible if not likely - and need to be hospitalized, who will help your loved one then? It is not selfish! We learned this the hard way.

      6 months ago
    • cllinda's Avatar

      Take things one day at a time. And don't be afraid to ask for help. During my chemo, the church ladies brought over meals for my family. Even if I couldn't eat, my family did. And it was really appreciated.

      6 months ago
    • faithfully58's Avatar

      Take time for yourself now and then for sure.Even if it's just some quiet time alone.Sitting outside watching hummingbirds.Listening to music,reading just whatever it might be that brings you some joy!It's a full time job and nothing we can do to ease their pain or take their pain away! Or change the situation! Just be there :)

      6 months ago
    • MichaelDicleLS's Avatar

      You are capable of and able to do far more than you think you can. Caregiving will involve cooking, bathing, changing clothes, maybe changing bandages/dressings, administering drugs, giving shots, checking blood sugar, serving meals/feeding meals. There is no chore list, you have to do whatever it takes to get through a day. You can do it!

      6 months ago
    • Bengal's Avatar

      Infinite patience. The acceptance that no matter how much you think you know what they're going through, you cannot (unless of course you've been there). Don't smother; know when you need to back away. Take time for yourself!

      6 months ago
    • Paperpusher's Avatar

      Take all the help that is offered by friends or the hospital staff for the patient and caregiver. Our hospital had a caregiver room where I could eat lunch, take a nap or get a chair massage. My husband has had a heart attack, stroke and assorted other illnesses but this was the most helpless that I felt as far as helping with his side effects. So yes, take care of yourself so you can take care of you loved one.

      6 months ago
    • Shoeless' Avatar

      You don't always have to be hovering over or trying to do something for your loved one. Simply sitting together while reading or some such is a great comfort to the patient.

      6 months ago
    • wmsavs' Avatar

      Don't be afraid to ask for help-It's important to realize that stress builds with taking care of someone who needs your help, possibly more and more.
      Continue to learn about the patient's diagnosis- It helps to better understand what the patient is going through. Also for the caregivers that join the patient for their doctor's appointments, provides an opportunity to contribute with information learned.

      6 months ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar

      My husband has been an ideal caregiver for me. When I was really sick, he grocery shopped and cooked as needed. When I was a little better (but not too good), he drove me where I wanted to go (to play agility with my dogs) and waited on me and drove me home when I was almost too tired to move. He supported me doing whatever it was I thought I wanted to do, when I wanted to do it. He went to all of my doctor appointments with me for several years (until he had quadruple bypass and couldn't go because he was recuperating himself ... and he just never started going again because I obviously did fine without him).

      Once I was able to resume my typical activities and do for myself - he backed off and let me do just that. He has very rarely treated me like I was sick ... and for sure, only when I was at my very sickest.

      6 months ago

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