• What to do for depression?

    Asked by danellsar on Thursday, October 27, 2011

    What to do for depression?

    My husband is stage 4, treatment is not working, and he's physically feeling really awful. He's gotten very silent, won't talk to people or participate in family life. He won't read or answer his email. He's seeing a professional therapist, and taking the meds they give him, but he's so depressed and hopeless.
    Is this normal? Is there anything I can do to help? Some days he won't even get out of bed.

    5 Answers from the Community

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    • Carol55's Avatar

      I hope you have told his therapist that the meds are not working. I have heard it sometimes takes several tries to get it right and maybe he can try a different med. Also, there are meds to take the edge off that could be addictive but if they help I could not fault him for taking these. The main thing is that he has some good days or hours in the day. Please keep at his Onc doc or therapist to let them know his meds are not working. When I feel horrible I don't want to communicate with others, either. But it concerns me he cannot muster energy to interact with those who mean the most to him. Please get him some help, change meds, and change again and again until they find something that will work for him!!

      over 9 years ago
    • mspinkladybug's Avatar

      yes it is normal to semi shut down but he needs a support group he needs to be with others who understand what he is feeling sometimes we feel like we r theonly person inthe world with cancer e just need to know we r not alone. talk to a cancer center/hospital am cancer soc to see where there is a support group

      over 9 years ago
    • Gururobb's Avatar

      I hesitated to post this because the previous answers are great ones. I only mention it because the outpouring of prayers and well wishes I have received via Social Media are a huge boost to me and the wifes mental state right now.

      over 9 years ago
    • PetraW's Avatar

      I was slipping into depression during and after chemo and understand very well how he feels. One of the things that helped me after I completed my chemo treatments were nutritional IVs with vitamins, minerals, trace elements, etc. I worked with a ND (naturopathic physician) and it was absolutely excellent. I had 5 of these IVs and they helped to get my organs back to work properly, kicked up the functionality of my adrenal glens and boosted my immune system all together. I could tell a complete difference in my mental outlook the moment my body functions were better again. It took two infusions to start to feel better mentally and also less fatigued.

      over 9 years ago
    • SteveG's Avatar

      I had cancer of the base of the tongue and felt so bad I tried to sleep all day and all night. I was put on an anti depressant but did not see a therapist because I felt too bad to go anywhere and thought the problem was not in my head. I was finally allowed off the antidepressants three months after my feeding tube was removed and two days before Christmas. On Christmas morning I woke up my wife and told her "Santa Claus came!" She told me I was too cheerful. I was so happy to be off the antidepressant. I am back to running even though I am 60 and have had cancer and more. Tell your husband he can get through this. Also tell him he needs to get out of bed or he may make his physical health worse. He could get pneumonia or a pulmonary embolism. The doctors thought I might have had pneumonia and I did have a pulmonary embolism, which can kill you. Watch him closely. If he gets abdominal pain or has shortness of breath, take him to the ER.

      over 8 years ago

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