• What to expect after surgery

    Asked by wldflwrgoddess on Thursday, March 7, 2013

    What to expect after surgery

    Newly diagnosed. Surgery is scheduled for 3/21. What can we do until then? Stressed and worried

    6 Answers from the Community

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    • SueRae1's Avatar

      First sending you hugs, healing and calming vibes. I know how hard this time will be. I remember how long and nerve racking waiting from Nov 6 to Nov 21 for my Nephrectomy was in 1995. Some suggestions - rent or go out and see lots of funny movies. It will help take your mind off of things for a few hours. Get a massage and/or energy work. Listen to calming music and try mediation. Stock up on light reading material for after surgery. If you really feel anxious speak with your doctor about the possibility of taking anti-anxiety meds (xanx, etc) to help keep you on an even keel for the next few week.

      But most importantly love and be kind to yourself.

      over 3 years ago
    • Clyde's Avatar

      This is the hardest time of all so you can keep in mind that it only gets better (I know that sounds weird, but its true). Be careful of over thinking and try to resist the urge to look things up on line, there is just as much bad info out there as good and you don't have enough answers yet to discern one form the other. Has your Dr explained what to expect in regard to recovery from the surgery (not the cancer--that comes later, just the surgery--one step at a time)? This would be the time to get things in order so you don't have to worry about them later in that regard (get your support team in place now, make schedules, organize a housekeeper if needed). Treat this like a military campaign and cover your bases, you will be happy you did and since you list yourself as spouse, this will make you the general. Once the surgery is over, your Dr will have much more information for you and then you can start the real journey of how to fight this. Don't be afraid to sit down and cry if you want too, its a great release, but don't forget to plan for the future either. If you need, find an objective person to speak too (pastor, shrink, etc.). And take time for yourself. Its not selfish, its very healthy and your spouse needs you at the top of your game through this.,

      over 3 years ago
    • KarenN@StF's Avatar

      Great advice in the previous responses.I think it will be helpful to keep things as simple as possible. Take care of yourself, take care of your spouse, focus on each other and let the people who love you take care of everything else. Good Luck!

      over 3 years ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar

      My cancer was found during a hernia repair, so I had to wait for 6 weeks before I could have my hysterectomy to give me time to heal from the other abdominal surgery. I'm one of those people who loses herself in information. I think I got every book on cancer out of my library. Hit the used bookstores a couple of time for books. Bought books off Amazon. That's how I cope, by finding out everything I can. I really thought I'd freak myself out by doing it (especially since survival rate for my cancer & stage stinks), but I didn't freak. Everyone has different ways of coping w/stress. And I did the exact same thing when I lost a job -- got every book out of the library on job searches and how to deal w/unemployment, etc. Have you had to go through anything stressful before? If so, can you adjust how you coped w/that to your current situation? Hopefully some of the suggestions you get here ring true for you. I hope all goes well for you. All the best.

      over 3 years ago
    • Kathy's Avatar

      Yes - these are all great suggestions. Maybe taking it a day at a time or as little as an hour at a time will help? And I do understand. I was a nervous wreck waiting for the surgery. My last day at work prior to surgery was hard to - I cried a lot!! Whatever it is that you find comforting make sure to give yourself the time to do it. I'm having a minor procedure next week and I'm in that nervous state - it does seem to come in waves. Music helps me a lot. Also magazines can be helpful - it can be hard for me to concentrate on an entire book. Good luck!!

      over 3 years ago
    • BLBragg's Avatar

      I too want to keep things simple for you, this is a VERY stressful time and so many here can relate. My husband was diagnosed in May 2011 of squamous cell carcinoma, base of tongue that spread to his lymph nodes. He did not have surgery but did go through treatment of chemotherapy and radiation. His doctor gave us both some very good advice. Take each day at a time and try not to "digest" the whole process. One day after another turns into week after week and then it is over. That helped me a lot. Have faith that the doctors know what they are doing, and keep yourself as calm as possible. Reach out to people who have been there and share your fears this way you can get infor from someone who has walked your same path. We are praying for you.

      over 3 years ago

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