• What would you say the absolute lowest point of your cancer has been? And, what would be the high point?

    Asked by dollymama on Monday, January 7, 2019

    What would you say the absolute lowest point of your cancer has been? And, what would be the high point?

    For me, it was the day of diagnosis, even though the treatments and side effects and all that we have to deal with hadn't even started. It was like I was punched in the gut. I had to tell my kids, watching them cry and say Mama don't die! That was the worst.

    The highest point would be the day my doctor said, OK, you're done, you can go!

    6 Answers from the Community

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    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      I think a low point was learning i had to come off of the clinical trial i had been on for 4 years because a tumor outsmarted the drug. I was nearly at 100 infusions and was really looking forward to reaching that milestone. The end of the trial and the growing tumor threw a real wrench into things.

      A high point came a couple of months later when my oncologist and his staff came in and presented me with a Willow Tree angel named Shine. They were celebrating with me that i was getting that 100th infusion after all.

      I don't know that these are THE high point and low point, but they are the first to come to mind.

      Congratulations on finishing treatment!

      over 3 years ago
    • Lynne-I-Am's Avatar
      Lynne-I-Am

      My lowest point, like yours, was on the day I was diagnosed. My doctor looked at my CT scan and told me I had ovarian cancer and to see my gynecholgist right away. Then he said “ I had a patient once in her seventies with ovarian cancer who lasted almost two years”. The worst thing any doctor can do to a patient facing a life threatening challenge is to take hope away. I have two high points in my journey 1. Finishing chemo and being declared in remission after a clean CT scan, 2. Reaching five years of being a survivor this past September.

      over 3 years ago
    • DonnainRI's Avatar
      DonnainRI

      I think the day I was diagnosed with melanoma the first time was my lowest point. I was terrified. I had had to wait for two hours to see the doctor to take out the stitches from my mole removal. I was not expecting anything to be wrong so I was alone. I was 24 and I had cancer. A the time melanoma was considered to be very deadly. I thought my life was over. As I left the exam room after getting the news the clinic nurse turned away from me. No words of encouragement, no asking if I was okay. I have never forgotten that so during my nursing career I tried to not be that nurse when patients/families received bad news.

      over 3 years ago
    • JaneA's Avatar
      JaneA

      Mine was the day of my staging results when I learned that I was Stage IV and told that my two choices were either to call hospice or fight. That was in October 2014. I chose to fight and have been NED after a year of treatment.

      My high days come every six months when I hear that my scan shows that I am still NED.

      over 3 years ago
    • SandiA's Avatar
      SandiA

      My lowest point was when I was in the hospital for colitis. I had to have a colonoscopy and since it was impatient I didn’t have anyone go with me. I figured they would take me down and right in for the procedure. That didn’t happen. They rolled me in some room and left me. I didn’t have my phone or anything with me. I was left at an odd angle and couldn’t even watch tv. I was on 250mg of steroids and hadn’t slept for days. I laid there and all of the sudden I realized I didn’t know what time it was. I didn’t know if I had been there for minutes or hours. I had a complete breakdown. I think everything from the diagnosis, the unknown, the pain and fear all came crashing down on me. A nurse heard me and came in. They took me in for the colonoscopy and I could not stop crying I sort of remember dozing off for a few minutes while a nurse held my hand and prayed with me. I think I had held onto almost 9 months of tears that all came out in one day.

      My highest point is when I was able to attend my son’s wedding. It was 3 months after my diagnosis. I was in the middle of radiation and had to travel to Colorado. My doctor said he didn’t think it would be possible but I was determined. With the help and love of great doctors and family I made it. I remember they hadn’t planned the mother son dance just in case. But they surprised us and called us up to dance. During the dance my son said he needed two things that day. First was for her to say I do and the second was for me to be there. That was my highest point.

      over 3 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      I will say for my last diagnosis, the lowest was one day after I had gotten my biopsy results and at that point only knew that I had squamous cell carcinoma somewhere in my head, and it was much worse than my previous diagnoses. I had a month and a half to wait to see my oncologist, so I had time to think. I was sitting in a mall on a bench during the Christmas shopping season while Donna and her Sister were shopping. I was just sitting there stewing over being diagnosed again, 3rd, and thinking that this one was it, this one was going to be the one that gets me. That day was my lowest point.

      My highest was the last day of radiation. After surviving two serious surgeries that were extremely hard on me, and getting to feeling better by the day, in spite of the side effects mounting up from the radiation. The feeling that I had that day was great, knowing that I was done, and could try to move on.

      over 3 years ago

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