• when cancer is in 3 places,and one tumor is 9mm. and now she is having trouble speaking& swolowing. Is there any hope?

    Asked by pinkheart7 on Sunday, January 29, 2012

    when cancer is in 3 places,and one tumor is 9mm. and now she is having trouble speaking& swolowing. Is there any hope?

    How else can I help her,I only can love her and be there. How little is that after knowing someone for 43 years?

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    • CountryGirl's Avatar

      Barry and I often wished that we had the comfort that came with more time together (we've been married 15 years) before I became sick with cancer treatment. You asked what you could do more than love her. One thing that I craved was touch. Barry fulfilled all my needs, coerced me to eat more than I thought I could, took care of the kids, helped me bathe, etc. But, what meant the most to me were the times he touched me. Sometimes he ran his palm over my bald head, sometimes he held my hand and rubbed his thumb over the backside my hand, other times he massaged my feet. It didn't matter what he did, I just really felt reassured and comforted by the contact.

      over 9 years ago
    • TomLand's Avatar

      The Proton Therapy - Cyber Knife is able to attack tumors that are located in critical spots near other vital organs, etc. You could ask the Doc about that option.

      If it is end stage your Doc should be able to tell you. Then it is stay close as CountryGirl says I think. At least that is what I believe I will want.

      over 9 years ago
    • Jackie's Avatar

      To love her and be there is the greatest, best, and most loving thing you can do. Cherish the time together.

      over 9 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      There is ALWAYS HOPE!! Do not give up, and stay positive. When the mind gives up, the body usually follows. You can be there, be positive, care for her, if things get better thats great, if they don't you will be providing an absolutely great thing by being there. I took care of my mom and dad both in hospice. Lost both of them within 10 months of one another. It was the hardest thing I have ever done, much harder than having cancer myself.

      Good luck to you both, I wish you the best!!

      over 9 years ago

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