• When given a time frame-such as 6-8 months, when does the count begin from?

    Asked by ButchersWife on Sunday, December 11, 2011

    When given a time frame-such as 6-8 months, when does the count begin from?

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    • danellsar's Avatar

      Well, my husband was given a year, and that started when he got his doagnosis. I was concerned at first that the doctor was refering to a year from when he got sick, but they said no, it's from formal diagnosis.

      Also realize that these time frames mean nothing to YOU as an individual. Some people react well to treatment, others not. Those are averages. One friend went from Stage 4 to remission in 6 weeks. Another went from Stage 2 to Stage 4 in a month. Just depends on the individual and how the body responds.

      My family is learning.... one day at a time... enjoy the time you have... make the most of each day.

      almost 5 years ago
    • ButchersWife's Avatar

      Thank you Ellen. My children have been asking this question, and I really didn't know. I realize that these time-frames are an average, but as you said-you just never know. My husband has not responded to any of the more recent treatments, so we do try to make the most of each day. We also are trying to do many of the things he has always wanted to do, be it simple or a touch extravagant. Spending quality time. My best to you and your family. Audrey

      almost 5 years ago
    • simplifylives' Avatar

      When you put in in perspective like that, it honestly makes you realize how short and valuable life truly is and how we must cherish each moment with everyone special in our life because we never know when it will be anyone's last breath, we only know we all will have to take it:(

      I sincely wish your husband and you the very best thru this horrible time, I know it's very hard, I wish you all the compfort in the world.

      almost 5 years ago
    • ButchersWife's Avatar

      Illness truly does make you put things into perspective-you learn to take each day as it comes and make the best of what is put on your plate. Thank you for your well wishes. The best to you as well.

      almost 5 years ago
    • susie81610's Avatar

      They gave my Mother 2 weeks to live and she made it just shy of 5 yrs so no one knows. That was one of the best blessings in the world.

      almost 5 years ago
    • collinsb01's Avatar

      You already understand the basics, so this is my experience. They told me about 9 months with paliative treatment. That was almost 14 months ago. While I have really been affected with chemo side effects, and barring the cancer itself, I am healthier than many people I know. Thank God!!! I also did a few of the things that I have really desired to do, but never had the time. You all are right, no one knows when their last breath will be, so we must make the best of our lives while we can. I thank God that He has allowed me a chance to actually LIVE life a little instead of just going through life. My prayers are with you, your husband and family.

      almost 5 years ago
    • shauna0915's Avatar

      Let me start by saying I wish you and your family all the best and that God gives you the strength to get through what you are going through and what is yet to come. The best you can do is be as supportive as possible to each other and make the most of every minute.

      To answer your question (and I am not a medical professional, but I was one of the primary caregivers for my dad): the direct answer is the clock begins from the date of diagnosis. However, as everyone else has said, and any good doctor should tell you, there is no way to predict the exact date and time anyone will expire. All the doctors can do is give their best "guess" based on their experiences and education.

      My dad had stage 4 lung cancer in both lungs with multiple brain mets. The doctors gave him 6 months to a year with treatment IF his cancer was responsive to the chemo and 6 months or less without treatment. Unfortunately, dad was already so weak and sick that the chemo just made him worse so he stopped treatment, upon recommendation from his oncologist because his cancer was too aggressive and unresponsive to the chemo. Dad was diagnosed April 6th and passed July 4th this year.

      My reason for telling you my dad's story is not to scare you or make you worry more. I shared this with you so you understand that no one knows what will happen and cancer is a very tricky disease. It's unpredictable, just like life. Your husband could live 10 days or 10 years...no one know. I hope and pray for the latter. He could live longer than all of us. Just make every day count.

      Wishing you and your family all the best.

      almost 5 years ago
    • mspinkladybug's Avatar

      ONLY GOD KNOWS WHEN U WILL GO HOME! when dr put a time limit on you mpst people and their support group give up and die DO NOT GIVE UP there is HOPE my sister in law was told she would die with in a few weeks she came home and she prepared to die until family got involved then we prepared her to live and fight and she lived a year her whole body had cancer
      so NEVER give up HOPE andNEVER say Die that is Gods job

      almost 5 years ago

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