• When you go to bed at night do you dread waking up tomorrow to fight the same issues/side effects/etc that you fought today?

    Asked by GregP_WN on Monday, March 18, 2019

    When you go to bed at night do you dread waking up tomorrow to fight the same issues/side effects/etc that you fought today?

    You wake up every morning to fight the same demons that left you so tired the night before, and that, my friend, is true bravery. If opening your eyes, or getting out of bed, or holding a spoon, or combing your hair is the daunting Mount Everest you climb today, that is okay. Please know, you have carried the weight of the world on your shoulders and made it look like a pair of wings. ~ A. Dancu & C. Ambrosio

    13 Answers from the Community

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    • cancerfree's Avatar

      Yes I do and it's even harder when doctors dismiss your problems.

      4 months ago
    • Allisonsue2's Avatar

      Yes there are days when it is hard to stay positive when you feel like crap especially when it is day after day. Seems like there is always some new issue to deal with.

      4 months ago
    • BugsBunny's Avatar

      I understand the feeling of dreading, or not wanting, at least, to get out of bed. There are days when I feel so bad I wonder if it's all worth it. But, that's when I'm trying to get up, get dressed, and get going. After I've managed to get started I'm kind of like a snowball that's rolling downhill. I get better and better.

      4 months ago
    • BudBandit's Avatar

      I guess I'm to new in this journey to dread it yet,I'm 6 mo. into it.It was pretty bad when I couldn't eat or swallow or keep anything down for a few weeks,but that went away a couple days ago( they finished the radiation treatment on my lungs and throat a couple weeks ago) I'm looking forward to getting a little bit back from what was taken from me...eating was one one of them.If I can just get the energy to get off my a... and do something.This warm weather should help with that.What I do dread is pre-maturely going through what little savings I have on some bucket list "adventures" and end up surviving,lol dang if I do,dang if I don't.I dread the emotional pain I am bringing to my closest friends and family,for every physical pain I feel I know they are suffering from a mental pain from seeing me like that.Probably more but I've rambled enough,Have a great day ya'll

      4 months ago
    • Dkatsmeow's Avatar

      I like to sleep too much. It is the only time I feel normal is in my dreams. but I don't dream about food anymore, just strange things. But I can talk normal in my dreams And yes I dread getting up. First to the bathroom to gag up all of the mucus. And my hands ache so bad first thing in the morning, I can hardly open the bedroom door. I also broke my hip, so sitting up & down hurts. Forget squatting. That kills my knees. I had that checked, but no bad arthritis, just some calcification in my veins. If I squat I play XXX getting back up.

      4 months ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar

      I was in a very dark place before I was diagnosed with cancer. I dreaded starting every day. After cancer my world changed; I discovered dawn and the beauty of the sunrise. So now I wake up every morning and watch the sunrise and pray thanks to God for another day and I pray for all who have asked for my prayers.

      4 months ago
    • Gumpus61's Avatar

      Imagine it for the care giver, Ground Hog day in a zero sum game.

      4 months ago
    • cllinda's Avatar

      I remember feeling like this. That I have to do all this stuff day after day. Feeling lousy. It got to be that way. Can I do this one more day? Can I eat just a little today? Will the food stay in me? And when's the next treatment? How much more can I take?
      And amazingly I got through it. God was on my side as well as my son's side, who had a serious accident just two months before my diagnosis.[phone number redacted] was a time of crisis in my family. But we got through it all. That year my daughter also got married. And now I m a grandmother of two wonderful girls. So all the sickness, doubts, financial issues, etc. Was worth it to me. It's not easy but I did all I could to get to this point.

      4 months ago
    • cllinda's Avatar

      It wasn't a phone number in my post. It was the years of 2012 and 2013. I think it's funny that they thought it was a phone number.

      4 months ago
    • andreacha's Avatar

      I thought I was the only one. Lately I've become more tired and take forever getting stuff done and, ultimately, I berate myself. And I really shouldn't complain at all seeing what most of you have been through. Far worse than me. Thus far, my chemo has been oral. Yes, it has some side effects but nothing compared to what you all have been through. I just have to realize that some things I can't do. I don't like to think about being 75!!

      4 months ago
    • carebear55's Avatar

      It has given me a new understanding when I use to hear people talk about chronic illness....I was younger and saw it as complaining....how wrong I was. I am a firm believer that unless you live it it is hard to understand.

      Since I am am now going on three and a half years of struggling knowing that I might be as healthy as I may get. It can be very depressing. Everyday can be a mental challenge. Some of the things I do to help me have a great day is get enough sleep. If your tired go to bed. listen to what your body is saying. Get enough fluid...because of the medication I take I get dehydrated really easy. Take your medicine...learn about them....understand how long before your system adjusts to them....know the side affects and let your Dr know. I am very fortunate to have Dr.s that really care and listen to me. If you are struggling one day again pay attention to your body what is going on...did you start a new medicine or get a shot? Are you tired? Are you sleeping well at night. I can not stress enough to listen to your body. Try to get yourself in a good frame of mine. Try and do something you enjoy doing. I soak in an epsom salt bath and read. I sometimes need help out of the tub...but I am getting stronger everyday and it is important I recognize my progress no matter how small it is. I have good support....they don't always understand why I don't feel ready to do things like travel, but they accept my decision.

      Give your body what it is asking for. A lot of times it is just extra sleep. If I can't get my cleaning done I no longer get upset at myself . I try it another day or have family come in to help me. Sometimes my mind says I can do things I can't yet just because I am feeling good.

      We want to be better so bad and have some familirarity to our old life. I have learned to accept the new me and celebrate my progress and what I can do. Good luck to all of you ....my prayers go with you and hope these posts are helping you.

      4 months ago
    • Teachertina's Avatar

      Getting up each morning surely beats the alternative!

      4 months ago
    • Stokley's Avatar

      I always feel that way

      4 months ago

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