• When your significant other leaves while you are still healing and facing a second opinion on another issue?

    Asked by iveysmemaw on Wednesday, September 4, 2013

    When your significant other leaves while you are still healing and facing a second opinion on another issue?

    How do you deal with a significant other leaving you once surgery is done and learning that the second opinion with another doctor for what could be another bout of cancer? I am feeling scared, hurt, and just confused. I handle the friends that left my life once the found out about the kidney cancer however this just happen and the hurt is unreal.

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    • TessElizabeth's Avatar
      TessElizabeth

      Words cannot describe my dismay at how "loved ones" or friends treat a person who has cancer. I guess you can't put in what God left out. Regardless, I am so sorry you are going through this and wish I could give you a big hug to assure you, you are not alone. There are more strong, kind and good people in this world than there are weak, selfish people. Please do reach out to a cancer community near you and continue to be part of the WhatNext community. You are not alone and we care deeply for you.

      over 6 years ago
    • ladyhawk's Avatar
      ladyhawk

      ivey,,, turn his last words around and say 'Heck , I feel sorry for YOU! your gonna miss out on a great gal!" (while displaying a "L" with your fingers, on your forehead for him to see) hahaha,,,
      S M I L E!!!!!!!!

      about 6 years ago
    • CJake55's Avatar
      CJake55

      I've been left twice during major illness recovery--first by my ex of 28 yrs., 3 1/2 months after a thymectomy and getting plasma pheresis every month. And now, by my 7 1/2 year live-in boyfriend, 9 months after my radical nephrectomy. This is NOT a coincidence. I'm a bad chooser, and my mates have been very narcissistic. Two things that have helped me deal with this horrendous treatment--not including leaning on many others--1) they are merely statistics, not people. IT'S NOT YOU!! It's their INABILITY TO CARE FOR SOMEONE ELSE!! 2) keep in mind this ridiculous story--I was heavily doped up a week after my thymectomy, chest cracked, extreme pain & fatigue, totally "out of it." My then-husband, a physician, BURST THROUGH THE BEDROOM DOOR, YELLING!--"I'm not getting enough from this relationship!!"

      So, remember--you ARE worth it, get care from other people, FOCUS on your recovery, and move on. It is a tough, obnoxious experience, but you're not alone. Feel free to contact me.

      over 5 years ago

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