• Where do I go from here?

    Asked by Minnow on Thursday, January 17, 2013

    Where do I go from here?

    I am extremely afraid of it coming back and I also need to lose about 100 lbs. to lower my BMI.

    12 Answers from the Community

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    • gwendolyn's Avatar
      over 4 years ago
    • TinaJacques' Avatar
      TinaJacques (Best Answer!)

      The fear of it coming back is a tough one, and I don't believe that ever really goes away. I think it lessens over time, but I dont think it goes away. If you are having trouble coping, consider talking to a therapist about it. They are wonderful resources, truly.

      As for the weight, I hear you, sister! I gained 30 pounds during chemo thanks to the wonderful steroids. I finally harnessed enough willpower to start taking control of my eating habits. I don't eat passed 6:30pm, I've cut out all sweetened beverages, I keep sweets to a minimum, my portion sizes leave me feeling satisfied, not full. I also started exercising and I HATE the gym. I just found stuff I actually enjoy doing. I started doing zumba and belly-fit which is like belly dancing, and recently I've been doing CURVES (a fitness club for women) with my mom and it's actually be great fun! I've shed nearly 20 pounds in the last 8ish weeks!

      Chin up! You've just fought and won an incredible battle and there is nothing you can't do now!!

      over 4 years ago
    • nancyjac's Avatar

      One you can't do anything about. The other one is completely within your control. Focus on the one that is in your control.

      over 4 years ago
    • Minnow's Avatar

      wware, thank u, I will look into that!!!! TinaJaques, thank u for the great answer, you have given me a lot to think about, thank you so very much for your thoughtfullness!!! nancyjac, you are so right, move on and hang in there and be tough. Thank all of you so very much for you thoughtfulness and you great ideas.

      over 4 years ago
    • JennyMiller's Avatar

      I totally understand your fear! Every ache or bump sends me into a "worry spell". I am really trying to control this -- to be "on guard" but not paranoid. I want to live in the present and cherish each moment rather than worry about a future over which I have no control. My husband keeps assuring me that all is fine and I want to believe him. I think I am doing better -- and when I hear the many success stories, I become stronger and more positive. However, bad news can set me back in a heart beat. For example, yesterday, my husband and I were relaxing in our living room -- I was going through the mail and came upon the Newsletter from my Oncology Center. I always enjoy reading about the employees, the Doctors and the progress on the new building. The front page story, this month, was about a retired Radiation Oncology Nurse who had Breast Cancer 2 years ago, was operated on by the same surgeon I had, had chemo, etc. --and then -- this past summer (2 years later) -- her family noticed symptoms of what appeared to be a stroke -- her cancer had returned in her brain. The article ended well in that she was treated with the Gamma Knife and is doing good. However, it renewed my fear and gave me one of those tearful meltdowns. When I finished crying, I wiped away the tears and did my best to return to the present -- got out of the house and went to Applebee's for their Happy Hour Appetizer's -- a fun supper!!! -- Probably not the best for a diet as I also need to lose a lot of weight. I do not anguish over the appearance that the extra weight causes the way that I did before Cancer. I certainly make an effort but as far as other people go, I say "Love me as I am or don't love me at all"!

      over 4 years ago
    • polgara's Avatar

      Hi I too need to loose weight and received two fantastic cancer fighting cookbooks, which will sid you in both questions. There are to s of food thst natural cancer fighting properties, for example garlic. The recipes are also real food but not terribly high in calaroied. The firsy is KICKING CANCER IN THE KITCHEN
      by Annette Ramke and Kendall Scott noth these ladies are cancer survivors and the book contains how each food fights cancer, as well as how each recipe helps through your symptoms from chemo etc. Also the introduction gives you each of their cancer journey and moe importantly how they are not going to judge you. Their is a poor better best guide to buying food. After reading the first half of the book I was not afraid to trh the recipes knowing that I could omitt ingredients as I needed to. The other is also wonderful it's THE CANCER FIGHTING KITCHEN by Rebecca Katz. One of my favorite recipes is Orange pistachio couscous its light and refreshing. I have four vhildren to feed and its not always to get everyo e to like the same meal but with both of these we have found meals that we all love and ones the kids arent too eccited about I make for myself for lunch. I also started using a calorie tracker - well that was an eye opener. Good luck! pm me if you want to talk.

      over 4 years ago
    • debco148's Avatar

      All I can saw Minnow is .. me too! I don't want this coming back either. You are correct about getting the weight off. I have always battled my weight. But, everything I find about bc is that estrogen revs up with extra fat. I have been doing lots of research on nutrition as well. As a result, I've been reducing the weight slowly and focus on eating only whole, real food- have about 40lbs more I want gone. I suggest getting the book "The Cancer Fighting Kitchen" by Rebecca Katz and Mat Edelson. It is important to get the right foods for us versus just doing some wacky diet. The weight will come off if you do, I promise. Basicially, use lots of grains (steel oats, quinoa, buckwheat, etc), leafy greens are a free food and should be consumed in quantity (kale, chard, spinach, arugula all good), and only up to 20% of your meal should have an animal or fish protein. I also went almost all organic. Now only use good fats, like olive oil, walnut and sesame too. No more canola- no one can say what is really comes from! So focus on eating whole, real food only.. nothing processed, take at least a walk a day and build up to something more strenuous that you like to do(I love Zumba). Most importanty, just keep setting your intention everyday.. this is not coming back. So, I hope this helps and I wish you the best of health!

      over 4 years ago
    • ticklingcancer's Avatar

      wware is correct, look into joining the Livestrong program at your YMCA. I just started this week. 12 weeks free with a trainer, not real catch other than you ask that you come in twice a week to workout with a group. The great thing is that you will be with other cancer survivors!!! Good Luck!!

      over 4 years ago
    • karen1956's Avatar

      Where are you in regards to treatment....have you started? have you finished? what treatments? Talk to your oncologist about a survivorship plan so you know what the next steps are. In regards to loosing weight, it up to you on how you want to do it....its one step at a time. Regarding the cancer coming back...either it will or it won't!!!! Live your life to the fullest, do what you need to do to be healthy....

      over 4 years ago
    • karen1956's Avatar

      Where are you in regards to treatment....have you started? have you finished? what treatments? Talk to your oncologist about a survivorship plan so you know what the next steps are. In regards to loosing weight, it up to you on how you want to do it....its one step at a time. Regarding the cancer coming back...either it will or it won't!!!! Live your life to the fullest, do what you need to do to be healthy....

      over 4 years ago
    • Nancebeth's Avatar

      It is renting a little bit of space in the very back of my head that it might come back. However, I don't let that thought consume me. Yes, if I feel anything "weird" I am more apt to go see the doctor than I was before cancer, but other than that, I try to keep everything status quo.
      I gained some weight on chemo and I finally feel well enough to get back to the gym. I use an app called My Fitness Pal for my smart phone which helps you track your daily food and exercise. It also provides you, based on your goals, a plan for daily calories and exercise. It lets you know how much you will lose if you stick to the plan. It definitely helps. I have lost 8 pounds since December and I know it will be easier to keep it off using this app to track myself.
      Good luck.

      over 4 years ago
    • Kossmore's Avatar

      You are a survivor now but the fear of the cancer returning never goes away no matter how long it has been since your became cancer free.

      To lose weight, there are many cancer prevention diets, eating vegan and diabetic lifestyles will also help with great tasting foods. Diabetes also gives you energy because of the glycemic index. I also found that you need to keep your mind and body occupied. Being in a place where eating is not convient (gardening, doing volunteer work) will help. Start a new hobby like sewing, knitting, painting or anything that you need to concentrate a little, keeps your hands busy or your hands clean. Eating chocolate candies with the chocolate melting (not m&m's) lol, on your fingers and getting onto your projects would not be a good thing.

      over 4 years ago

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