• Worry

    Asked by Mika on Thursday, September 3, 2015

    Worry

    Why do I worry about this cancer? It's taken over..how to stop this cycle..I know that tomorrow is not promise to anyone cancer or not no one leave this world alive..any advise on how to stop this self defending cycle is appreciated...thank god for this forum

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    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer (Best Answer!)

      NO....wish I did BUT I find when I'm immersed in something I like I forget about it. SO keeping really busy helps....and turning it all over the God and let the chips fall where they will. ALSO Radically change your diet and lifestyle to help yourself.....we are important in the treatment and after that LET IT BE....

      about 6 years ago
    • Ejourneys' Avatar
      Ejourneys

      Doing what you love as much as possible is a great distraction. In fact, anything that distracts you -- music, art, nature, reading. Exercise and healthy eating not only helped me through treatment, but they keep me calm and happier post-treatment.

      about 6 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      I like the quote that says worrying about tomorrow doesn't change tomorrow's problems, it only robs you of today's blessings. I had trouble with it too in the beginning, but then I decided that if there isn't anything I can do to change the outcome, or course, then I wasn't going to waste my time and energy on it. I've been much calmer since doing that over 20 years ago. Still worry a bit every now and then, but I never dwell on it. Look on our blog www.whatnext.com/blog for articles on staying positive.

      about 6 years ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      Hi Mika,

      Have your treatments started? Do you feel good enough to exercise, to get outside and enjoy nature? Exercise does a lot to improve your mood and your health and, for me, outside and nature adds to that.

      Do you like to read or watch movies? Do you have friends you can visit with or a church group who can offer prayers and companionship? I'm hoping there are ways that you can take your mind off of the cancer and onto something else.

      Do you have pets? My pets have been my life savers. I spend many, many hours with them most days.

      You are correct that none of us are going to get out of here alive, but it is also true that many of us with late-stage, aggressive cancers are still here. Many are even considered "No Evidence of Disease." A cancer diagnosis isn't an automatic death sentence.

      I still have to have treatments but I feel absolutely wonderful and am living every moment of my life. I don't know when God might call me home, but when He does, I hope everyone I know and care about will say, "She knew how to live ... and made the most of every minute."

      Best of luck!! And big hugs.

      about 6 years ago
    • geekling's Avatar
      geekling

      Breathe.

      Deeply in. Exhale completely. Repeat until you calm yourself. This can consciously be repeated many many times per day. We humans are little oxygen machines and the fueling is calming to the body and the soul.

      Once you are calm, you can begin to figure out how to mitigate your woes. Being proactive in some way is better than simply letting your life slip away spent in useless fretting. Eat more greens. Take a little walk. Feed a bird. Pet a cat. Contemplate the beauty of any tree. If you feel you have no life, interupt someone else's. Gurgle at a baby. Smile at a child. Offer to carry a package for a pregnant woman or hold open a door for an elderly man. Read a book. Write a letter or in a journal. Go window shopping, people watching, or make a salad to be shared.

      Unlock the door to enjoying your life.

      about 6 years ago
    • JeanB's Avatar
      JeanB

      It sounds like you are taking the first step by realizing that tomorrow isn't promised to anyone. I just lost a good friend to a freak accident. She was on the back of a motorcycle doing 5 mph in a parking lot when her husband hit some fresh gravel. She fell off the back and hit the back of her head. Two days later she died. Who would have thought?? Anyway, worry is inevitable....I think we have ALL been there. Keeping busy is a great idea. What are your hobbies?? Is there anything you've been yearning to learn?? Yoga is great!! Eventually, you realize life goes on. Good luck on this journey.

      about 6 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      I used to worry about cancer then I got cancer. And I realized that I had wasted almost 60 years worrying about cancer. So I had two and a half worry free years, I got cancer again and again I have had two worry free years and I continue to have worry free days and weeks.
      I suppose your worry sessions go a little like this "WHAT IF my cancer spreads? WHAT IF I can't pay the bills. Yada yada yada . But do you ever think "WHAT IF I live to be 100?"
      Now I won't say I don't worry, but it is not about cancer. I freak out about "global warming, near earth objects, and super volcanoes". Last night I watched a video on YouTube about global warming. It showed all the cities that would be under water by the end of the century (really scary) But tonight I watched a truly scary program on Netflix about Yellowstone becoming a super volcano. I live in the second zone; the one where everything dies a horrible lingering death. YIKES. By the way my first cancer which was diagnosed five and a half years ago is esophageal cancer stage IV and my second cancer is uterine cancer stage II grade 3 diagnosed nearly three years ago.

      about 6 years ago
    • meyati's Avatar
      meyati

      Like everyone else, find something that you like to do and have the energy. Play video games, do puzzles, clean a closet, You can shop online without buying anything. The best that I can say is to pray for others, and thank god for whatever you have. I have a loving family-flawed, but loving. I have food, clothes, a bed and room of my own. I even have this PC. I can pay my own doctors' bills. So many don't have safety, food or a bed. I always have a friend that I can pray for. I do believe that prayer for others is the sweetest to god. It doesn't have to be a long prayer, just a few words. I read English and Spanish, but I get the most comfort in reading the Psalms- the poetry of King David. Do you have a favorite author, and you never had time to read any of the books. Keep your brain active, as that's a problem with many modern meds, not just cancer meds-that our brain gets slow and we understand less. So use your brain-sew, knit, grow plants, learn a new language, I really love puzzles. Life is a puzzle- learn how to bake bread. God bless you---it's easy for me to say, but I had such a hard time doing any of this. What little I did helped me.

      about 6 years ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar
      BuckeyeShelby

      Have you considered meditation? I took a meditation workshop sponsored by the hospice bereavement program after my mom died. It helps not just w/grief but anxiety over my cancer as well. If you feelings are strong enough, you may also want to talk to your oncologist about anti-anxiety meds. I have an rx for Ativan, but I've not had to use it much since meditation. I hope you feel better soon.

      about 6 years ago
    • kirs33's Avatar
      kirs33

      I do whatever i enjoy like watching my favourite tv series etc. and exercising really helps. Even a little exercise is both good for your immune system ,body and your soul. Because once you exercise your body secretes hormones that makes you happy like endorphines. Unless your doctor advice you not to do so, even a 5 min walk or dance in the house, whatever you can helps. Also before exercising i have to motivate myself , that also keeps me busy for a while i have to say. It's natural antidepressant and afterwards i also feel good because i know i did something good for my health.

      about 6 years ago
    • cam32505's Avatar
      cam32505

      I can't tell how long it's been since your diagnosis/treatment, but it does get better with time. I had to go back to work after my treatment. I think for me that was the best thing I could have done because being retired I would have more time to be anxious. If you are retired, maybe you could do some volunteer work to keep yourself busy. There are always cancer patients needing a ride for treatment. If keeping busy doesn't work for you, you can ask your doctor for some anti-anxiety meds or exercises to help with your anxiety.

      about 6 years ago
    • happydyad's Avatar
      happydyad

      Exercise helps me immensely. I also take proactive steps like juicing, Budwig protocol, B17 and a few carefully chosen supplements. Reflecting on these proactive steps that I'm taking gives me comfort as does my faith. I like to start my day reading from Jesus Calling and that is a great way to get centered in thought if you are so inclined. When all else fails, I repeat my mantra "I'm not going to die today and I'm not going to die tomorrow.....probably not even this year." I hope some of these ideas are also helpful to you! Big hug and best wishes! Judy in Ky

      about 6 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      I love the saying.....I accept what I can't change.....that's my mantra AND God's Will be Done.....and Make course corrections when deemed prudent.....

      about 6 years ago
    • Mika's Avatar
      Mika

      Thank you all.....and geeking I will definitely do the breathing technique...

      about 6 years ago
    • Laura65's Avatar
      Laura65

      I have learned that everyday is a gift and all the worrying does is rob you of precious time. Cancer is scary but there are so many other diseases like AlS etc that are just as scary. I take each day at a time and find something to be thankful for and spend time giving back some of the love I have received over my life. I have had cancer three times and it hasnt killed me so far so I keep fighting and keep living! Hugs to everyone!

      about 6 years ago

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