• Worrying over nothing?

    Asked by derbygirl on Thursday, January 10, 2013

    Worrying over nothing?

    Today my Oncologist told me to start seeing my ObGyn because she doesn't participate with my new insurance. She said she was comfortable with me seeing him since it's been 4 years,10 months since my diagnosis & surgery. In the past 4 years, my ObGyn has been the one ordering my blood work and yearly pap screenings and she has only done a pelvic exam. He has been my ObGyn and my friend for 18 years and I trust him more than anyone. He's been there for me whenever I've needed advice or a shoulder to cry on but he isn't a Gyn-Oncologist Even though I have this level of trust for him, should I be worried about my Oncologist turning me away like that? She told me at my last visit that she had planned to order a CT scan at this visit but now she said he can order it. When I ask if she'd call and talk to him, she told me that since he and I have a close friendship she felt ok with me talking to him about this. I'm confused right now and need input from my WhatNext buddies. Thank you !

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    • carm's Avatar
      carm (Best Answer!)

      Derbygirl, I can see where this might seem odd however, it sounds like you have a wonderful relationship with your ob/gyn and if there was something he could not handle, i'm sure he would direct you to an oncologist that accepts your insurance. It sounds like he has your best interests at heart. I have worked with gyne/oncs who have done the same thing and the fact that you have a long standing association with your ob/gyn should make you feel you are in more capable hands than with a doc who would turn away because of insurance issues. I appreciate yourconcern, but I think you are with a doc who will look out for you because of that bond between you; that speaks volumes. Not many people are that lucky to have a doc who values and nurtures a friendship for that many years. It sounds like a safe situation, Carm.

      over 7 years ago
    • SueRae1's Avatar

      You can ask your ob/gyn to recommend an oncologist who participates in your plan. You can also call the center were you are being treated and/or your insurance company to find one who will take your insurance.

      over 7 years ago
    • Tracy's Avatar

      Hi Derby Girl,
      Part of this wonderful life of cancer is that you will always worry, it comes with the diagnosis. It should make you feel good that your oncologist does not feel the need to continue to see you but it does feel like being cut off from a life line. If you should need to be seen by her you know full well that she will be there but it is an uncomfortable feeling when you are kicked from the nest. You know when something is not right in how your body is reacting, learn to trust that and don't be shy about asking for more tests if you are not comfortable. At this time, however you are no longer a cancer patient, you are a survivor. I have many years of this feeling, you have an obgyn that you can trust to listen to you and that is a huge part of the battle. Take care, Tracy

      over 7 years ago
    • nancyjac's Avatar

      I'm not sure I see where there is a problem here. Your oncologist is simply telling you that she doesn't participate in your new insurance network. That means if you want to continue seeing her, you will need to pay out of pocket. She isn't turning you away, she is just trying to save you unnecessary expense. What is it that you are confused about? You have the following options:
      1. Continue to see your oncologist and pay out of pocket.
      2. See your OB/GYN for any recommended follow up treatment or testing.
      3. Find a new oncologist that is in the network for your new insurance.

      over 7 years ago
    • Carol-Charlie's Avatar

      I'm sorry, but I think she's a bit..."don't let the door hit you'....on this. However, I think she is correct on this.. Your OB GYN can handle this perfectly well. He can certainly spot something and refer you to a Gynecologic Oncologist Surgeon, if one would ever be required again. I know I would be confused and devestated to be given the heave ho.... Mine was always talking about the first five years ... and once at about year 3... I asked what happened at year five... He smiled and said... "I'll kick you on your way:.... But when he saw, what must have been a 'terrified' look on my face. He said.. Carol... I'm here and if insurance is a problem... well then we'll work something out.... I still go to his office heading into my eighth year... I see his physicians assistant, but he's only a door knock away..... I know You'll be okay with your doctor... but not a really good "bed side manner' on her part.

      over 7 years ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar

      Don't necessarily think the dismissal is because she thinks she won't see money. If your plan has out of network coverage, in a lot of instances the dr gets more money. Of course, more of that would be out of your pocket. And some plans don't allow you to stray out of network. I'm in med insurance, and I've seen instances of both. She may just be trying to help you w/your finances.

      over 7 years ago
    • Clyde's Avatar

      To me, it sounds like she has your best interests at heart, financially and emotionally. Self pay is horrifically expensive and can cause more stress than the cancer believe it or not. At your point in the journey, trust that she has your best interests at heart and move forward as a survivor rather than a sufferer.

      over 7 years ago
    • mysecondchance's Avatar

      First I want to say congratulations on almost five years past diagnosis. That is great. I got an 18-month remission and am fighting a recurrance.

      If you would feel better under the care of an oncologist, by all means, find another one. I feel that we have to do whatever it takes to give us peace of mind.

      over 7 years ago
    • derbygirl's Avatar

      I just wanted to thank everyone for your support. It has meant a great deal to me. I think the reason I was so upset is because in my area there are only a few oncologists. I live in a small area of Lancaster County PA where we have tons of family practitioners and ObGyn's but certain specialists are tough to find so it did make me panic. With all your advice, which I have given a lot of thought, it has given me a new perspective and realization that I am going to be in the best hands possible with a doctor that has always been there for the past 18 years. I'm lucky, not only for his support, but for all of you to turn to for advice.

      over 7 years ago

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