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      KB2013

      The remnants of my family were very vocal about their inability to cope with my diagnosis and abandoned me almost immediately. My bff also decided it was all so trifling and going to be too much to deal with so chose to drift away like a sailboat into the sunset...that was six years ago.

      Interestingly, I found a voicemail left two days ago with this message: "Hi, it's *******, ...just called to see if you're still alive...bye." No way would I ever return this call to one who abandoned me when I was in a hospital, begging them to come see me because I was alone and afraid but, this person chose to ignore me and has remained absent from my life.

      We don't get to choose our family but, we can try to find people who are good souls, people we would have chosen to be our kin and then, treat them like the valuable souls they are and be grateful we have them in our lives. jmo

      3 months ago
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      Turner

      During a time like this you find out the true colors of people- it’s sad but we are here!

      3 months ago
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      glam

      Give them some time to deal with the news but the most important thing is to put you in first place. I mean don´t let them upset you because of their reactions. Try to keep an space or a kind of self protection from bad feelings, bad humor, bad actions, etc.... trust after they understand their own feelings they will be more helpful to you but in this meantime don´t let them hurt your feelings. And if they simply don´t change you can talk to them and/or get the necessary distance from them. Toxic people with toxic energy are not welcome at all. I will pray they only don´t know yet how to help and express their feelings If we can be of any help just let us know. Blessings and best wishes for you

      about 1 month ago
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