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    ashleyb0213 asked a questionLung Cancer

    where do i turn to?

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    • RM-88's Avatar
      RM-88

      Not an easy journey for family members(god-bless)
      you might try cancer support groups in your area.
      my prayers are with you both.
      rm88

      almost 7 years ago
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      Dianem

      I'm the patient, and I have two children, one 21 and one 31. Last year when I was at my worse, they both went thru what you are experiencing now. We live in a community where everyone knows everyone and the were continually asked how is your mom doing. My daughter seemed to be able to open up to her friends more, whereas my son was more private. But on some level we all knew that people were trying to show they cared, so don't be afraid to let people in. The one thing I found is that my children grew much closer through this shared experience, so I would urge you to reach out to your brother, even though it might be difficult in the beginning. You can draw strength from each other and share the burden. I will pray for you all.

      almost 7 years ago
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      LiveWithCancer

      I currently have adenocarcinoma lung cancer but I'm going to reach back to the 1970's when I was about your age, with a 1-1/2 year old son. My dad was dying from lung cancer. He didn't want to talk about it. My mom couldn't accept it was happening. My brother, who was still in high school, pretended it wasn't so... He went to school the day Dad died and no one was the wiser that he'd just lost his dad.

      Come here if you need to talk or vent. It is not easy to watch your parent struggle against the ravages of cancer. It is probably easier on your mom than on the family. Just love her as much as you can - give her ice, help her get around ... be there for her as much as you can be.

      I feel pain as I discuss it with you as well ... I hurt for what you're going through. I am sure your friends feel so helpless to help you or, certainly, the situation. I know they wish they could make everything right again and, of course, they can't any more than you can. I would advise you not to shut them out. They want to be there for you and you need them - now and later.

      Your dad will probably talk to you if you approach him. I wouldn't not talk to him because he has too much on his plate. You have a lot on your plate too ... You both love your mom very much - you might be able to support one another.

      You can always, always, always come here. We are going through it - either as a caregiver or a patient. We are happy to lend an ear and offer comfort and advice!

      almost 7 years ago
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