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    baridirects wrote on GregP_WN's wall

    Hi, Greg,

    I'm reaching out to you because I don't really know what else to do - you are a voice of reason here, and I need to gain some perspective.

    There was a recent question posted over in the Breast Cancer group from someone who was looking for help and support dealing with her anger over persistent symptoms. As I read down the responses, I saw one from geekling that, once again, was focused on expressing her anger, bitterness, and resentment at how she's been treated by the medical system. I have heard her story before, at least in parts, and she's certainly had a bad time of it. However, although I certainly support her right to be angry - what the XXX, I'm a metastatic patient, with every reason in the world to be angry - I'm not sure that going there in response to the questioner is the least bit helpful. I wrote out something in response, and, as she has done many times before, she basically spit in my face, along with anyone else who is trying to make the best out of what is a difficult and challenging situation.. I went out yet again, and put on the table that, while anger, resentment, etc. is certainly part of the normal cycle of attempting to live with this disease, if you allow it to become the entirety of your perspective, it has a negative effect. I was not personally accusatory - that's not my style - but some of these folks are new, and I don't want anyone getting the idea that their doctors are out to hurt them - there are some bad docs out there, but I don't believe that it's the majority of the profession. Needless to say, she went entirely over the edge, took my comments as a personal attack, and (attempted) to smack me around on the Forum.

    I can't control how geekling perceives her disease or her life, nor would I want to per se. I don't agree with some of the things she says, but on the other hand, I don't live her life.

    At this point, I am becoming a little wary of posting to any kind of question she has responded to. Perhaps, since I seem to make her even angrier than she already seems to be by her nature, it would be better for me to leave this forum, since she frequently posts on breast cancer questions.

    You know, I don't always agree with BarryBoomer either, but somehow, we coexist in peace.

    Thanks for letting me rant a bit. I don't expect a fix of all this, but I'd definitely appreciate your thoughts.

    Best,
    Christine

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      msesq

      Don't stop posting you and others balance out the discussion , it would be pretty weird if a we heard was from geeking and barryboomer.

      about 5 years ago
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      Rolltidelynne

      I'm having the same delimma. I hope I responded respectfully but I just had to say something, too. I wanted rkymtndeb to not be disrespected and have the discussion go south:( if I'm commenting inappropriately I hope YALL tell me!! Please!! I love n respect this site and it has helped me in ways no one will ever know:) the people I've come to understand and "know" are tremendous puzzle pieces I was missing:) I've gained so much insight re my illness, me personally, and how to keep my voice and have med personnel understand and help me!! Christine , I appreciate you on so many levels!! Please don't stop commenting:) but please promise you will be truthful to me if I step out of line:) thanks... Lynne

      about 5 years ago
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      Bug

      Christine, I have been away from the site for a little while so I am coming to this a bit late. Please do not stop posting. I - and I'm sure many others - really value your input.

      about 5 years ago