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    Hi Ree
    thank you for your response and being able to open up.. I have learned it is very important to do that from time to time, when I was caring fro my husband he was also strong (6"7)I would hold everything in. in fear that he would notice and he already had so much on his shoulders. I know you can be strong when everything does not go in place. you will be surprised what you are capable of doing when need to. I myself didn't expect to be as strog as I was but I got the strength from my husband. I will be praying for Gary and hospice is very wonderful people I now volunteer for them as much as I can.. Please feel free to contact me at any time u can personally email or call me if you like.. I was in denial for so long with my husband I was sure he could beat this. but the strokes weren't helping any. Be sure to take care of your self as well I myself tend to negelect myself and that no good to your usband. Take care god bless. keep in touch

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    Loss (Lost loved one): Some of you might remember I lost my husband 7 month ago, Not only did hefight Lung cancer but he fought with strokes and blood clots, I still log in here from time to time. I miss everything about him. as confusing as this is i miss taking care of him. I have been trying to find a support group here, Hospice offers maybe once a month. Will there be any suggestions? It seem to be harder for me to deal. It almost a year..It like it hit a brick wall

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      LiveWithCancer

      Awe, beth2012, you loved your husband very much. It is perfectly normal to continue to miss him mightily. Give yourself permission to continue to grieve for the loss of him but also give yourself permission to move on and live your life. He would not want you to give up living just because he had to leave.

      about 3 years ago
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      Beth, I am still working and my husband was put on hospice care at home on March 13, 2014. Baylor Cancer Center, Dallas, said they have tried everything for him. He was first diagnosed in August 2005. Had his lower left lobe removed (we caught it EXTREMELY early). About 2008, he had a heart attack and we had 3 stints put in his heart and arteries. He was strong and a fighter; we tried some experimental stuff at Mary Crowley, which we obviously let continue too long. He lost down to 120 lbs (6'1 guy that was very built at one time) and we ended up taking him to the hospital on March 8th, 2014. We came home w/Faith Presbyterian Hospice. They have been fantastic!! However, the inevitable lingers over my head, Gary (my husband) remains in good spirits. He is a very positive and loving man. His family comes in and watches him while I am away at work; we are very blessed to have them AND my BF Billye to help. I would never had made it this far. Right now I am very anxious and worried about what comes next and when. Emotionally, I am not strong; God put the two of us together for us to care for one another. He is 12 yrs older than I; I am 57, and going on 58 in Sept. I don;t know what I will do when God calls him, My prayers, thoughts and best thoughts are going to you. I hope I can help you in some way. Please feel free to reach out to me,

      This is my first time responding to anyone. I don't know how this will sign me off as. But call me "Ree".

      almost 3 years ago
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      LiveWithCancer

      Hi Ree, my name is Donna. I just read your post about your sweet husband. It is so hard to watch your loved one go through their final days. I am currently the patient, but was there when my dad and then my beloved stepdad lost their battles to cancer. I live in Dallas too and considered Mary Crowley when it was time for me to get into clinical trials (traditional chemo quit working). They were not as responsive as I wanted them to be at the time so I ended up in a trial at UTSW instead. Anyway, for some reason your post resonated with me and I just wanted to say how sorry I am for the journey you are facing. We are here for you should you have questions or just a need to talk or vent. Big hugs.

      almost 3 years ago
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      JeanB

      What an amazing testimony to a strong and courageous man. Thank you so much for sharing.

      over 3 years ago
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      cam32505

      Love to all who have fought this battle, survivors, caregivers, medical staff who suffer along with us.

      over 3 years ago
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      GregP_WN

      Sorry for your loss, it's a hard thing to go through even as a caregiver. I lost both Mom and Dad to cancer as well as being a survivor of 3 Dx's, I've often said it's harder being a caregiver than a patient. Thanks for posting.

      over 3 years ago
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