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    Oh No (Diagnosed): My problem is with the responses I get from people I choose to tell about my breast cancer. I thought it was important to let my relatives know of my diagnosis if only for their own vigilance in their own breast health. As far as I know, I am the only member of my blood relatives to have breast cancer. Luckily, my prgnosis is good because it was caught so early. However, my female relatives have been in such denial about getting their yearly exams. Some are supportive to me with regards to my procedures and others are putting more effort in trying to find ways to separate themselves from me by blaming me for my lifestyle choices. ie, the foods I eat, where I choose to live. I am so sick of them trying to find reasons. No one will ever know where exactly this came from. Now, they are trying to "cure" me with homeopathic stuff. I am certainly old enough to follow my own doctor's advice. Has anyone else had such a discouraging time with their family?

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      mkjetset

      I am sorry you are having a struggle with your family's response to your cancer. When my cousin was diagnosed with breast cancer, I couldn't contact her. I just couldn't face her mortality. I was afraid to acknowledge her diagnosis as if my denial would somehow make it go away. When I saw her the summer after her treatment, I cried on her shoulder like a baby. She is post 5 yrs now and "cured". When I was diagnosed with anal cancer, she was one of the first to call me. Her brother has not reached out. I know he is exactly where I was when his sister was diagnosed. I share this because I think everyone responds differently and in unexpected ways when a loved one is diagnosed. Mostly, I think the lack of control over the illness is so frightening, family will do anything to try to control it. I hope you and your family find way to support each other. And that you get the support you need during this time. Good luck and I hope you are flying through your treatment!

      about 4 years ago
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    borgqueenie asked a questionBreast Cancer

    I am not a blogger. I just wanted to view others' stories and compare to my own. I just don't like writing.

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      CountryGirl

      I've written my story. The humor, the crazy(not just my own but that of my family and friends also), the agony--it's all in capsulized in 60,000 words. We are the same stage, similar age. Email me, and I'll send you a copy. You'd be doing me a favor as well, I'd love to have your opinion as, eventually, I'd like to have it published.

      over 4 years ago
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      Nancebeth

      I blog at nancebeth.blogspot.com and I guest blogged on here a while back as well.

      over 4 years ago
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      borgqueenie

      I would like to thank all of you "answerers". At first I kind of felt alone, at least in my family (see my OH NO). I am greatful for all of you in this community.

      over 4 years ago