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    Hi, BobbyZ. I see you're new to the web site. You have found a great resource here. There are a lot of really wonderful people on this web site - very kind, helpful, and supportive. I hope you find as much support here as I have. I bet you will. Take care.

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    Bug, you'll do just fine for your fur baby. You know him better than anyone how he is, so you'll know. He's a cute little guy--what breed or mix is he? Take care of yourself and him.

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      He's a Coton de Tulear. My husband is allergic to some dogs (and many cats) so we thought we would try a breed that has hair, not fur. Fortunately, he (my husband) doesn't have any problems with Murphy (our pup).

      9 days ago
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      I've never seen one in real life-just pics---have you ever posted his pic on the Pinboard. I'm glad that you found a furbaby that got along with your husband.

      I was looking at my dog food site- and they have tea towels-dish towels that say dog hair a condiment and clothing accessory-- one for cats too.

      I was cracking up- but it's the truth.

      8 days ago
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    Hi, cnmLisa! I see you're new to the web site. You have found a great resource here. There are a lot of really wonderful people on this web site - very kind, helpful, and supportive. I hope you find as much support here as I have. I bet you will. Take care. (BTW, my mom was born and raised in Corvallis and I still have relatives there.)

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      Bug--thank you so much for the kind words. Such a small world that your mother was born in Corvallis. I had my first treatment a week ago. Did a chemo hair chop today. I think it was better to chop it off and be short for a few weeks befor it started to fall out--less traumatizing. Thank goodness I used to wear my hair really short. I hope you had a wonderful holiday.

      24 days ago
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      Hi! So you're about a week out from your first chemo treatment. How are you doing?

      23 days ago
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    Hi, Carol. The other day my husband and I were talking about diseases that are worse than cancer. You have mentioned a couple of diseases in the past. Can you remind me of what you said? I think you also mentioned either a friend or acquaintance of yours that has something frightening.

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      I remember telling my parents I wanted five kids and they said, "Have one or two and then tell us how you feel about that." I always wanted to be a mom. Just didn't work out that way. I got pregnant in high school and relinquished my baby for adoption. I did not search for her because I didn't know if she was interested in meeting and didn't want to upset her or her family. When she was about twenty she searched for me. I was thrilled - it was what I always wanted. I'm one of the lucky ones. Her parents have been so very kind toward me. They even invited me, my husband and my mom to her wedding. I was even seated next to her father at dinner. Still humbles me how fortunate I am. Lots of adoptees and their adoptive parents don't want anything to do with the birth mom - which is fine. I totally get that and I say each to his/her own. I am very grateful my situation turned out the way it did. And now she has two little ones of her own. As far as other kids - it didn't work out that way for my husband and me. Such is life.

      I'm thinking seeing the older balloons lined up in Central Park was pretty cool.

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      Grace

      22 days ago
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      Grace, what a beautiful and happy outcome! I'm so happy for you and your daughter and grandkids, and for them, too. This warms my heart (and I'm not one who uses phrases like that often).

      I have friends, a married couple, and the man found out when he was 63 or so that he'd been adopted, and that his entire adopted family (aunts and uncles, cousins, etc.) all knew he'd been adopted, while he didn't. He found out by accident while clearing out his (adopted) mother's apartment when she was on her deathbed in the hospital. She was cogent so he confronted her, but she refused to answer his questions about his birth parents. He became deeply depressed over this and had to be hospitalized. He's fine now, having a strong wife and loving daughters and friends. His adoptive mother's sister (his aunt, obviously) told him the surnames of his birth parents. He did research and learned that they'd been a very religious Jewish couple who'd already had six kids and couldn't afford him - and another kid, and put both infants up for adoption with another Jewish couple. He tried to find his siblings and found one, but the son of this man refused to let my friend talk with his father, stating that his father also didn't know he'd been adopted, and at this age the shock would be too harmful. My friend is now trying to get the laws in NJ (where he lives, though he is from NYC) changed so that adoptees' records can be opened once the birth parents have died.

      Btw, my brother lives in Brooklyn.

      Thank you, Grace, for telling me your story.

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      Carol

      22 days ago
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      Interesting story about your friend. Geez, can you imagine the shock of learning at the age of 63 that you're adopted? I'm so glad he's doing better now. I wonder how a meeting between him and his biological brother would have turned out...

      Hugs, Grace

      20 days ago
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    Hi, PennieEckard. I'm just checking in on people that I'm following and people who follow me. Your last post was some time ago and mentioned going into a skilled care facility. How are you these days? I'm hoping you are okay.