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    BugsBunny asked a questionBone Cancer

    I've been cheering on a dear friend who was diagnosed after me. Now she is going into hospice.

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      Dawsonsmom

      BugsBunny, I am so so sorry about your friend and I can see why you are so devastated. You have been a good friend to her through all of this and she probably just needs you to continue to be her loving friend. That’s the XXX in the armor of cancer.....no guarantees regardless of how hard we fight, how much cheering we get, how well we take care of ourselves, etc. You did what friends do for one another and she is lucky to have you.

      about 5 hours ago
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      I have a friend that lived across the street from me who was diagnosed with NSC Lung cancer, at stage 4 when he was diagnosed. He and his wife are like aunt and uncle to my kids.

      I was the closest person to him who had cancer while he did and I did a lot of cheering on, and advice about treatments and just general emotional support, telling him he can maybe halt progression. He listened to me and I really hoped I was helping him. I think I was. He tried many different treatments.

      Unfortunately, the cancer was very advanced. Also his health care team was slow to act which didn't help. He passed away in the middle of the night about 6 months ago. I felt like I should've done more or maybe given him more advice to be firmer with his care team but the reality is that I don't believe that it would've changed things in his case. We were both comforted and pained together by going through the experience.

      I cheered him on. He needed it. I needed it too. We want to heal our friends and support them whether we are sharing the same disease with them or not. I know that my friend John got comfort from my support and wouldn't have wanted to do without it. His wife also was comforted, and we still support each other to this day.

      I am betting that your friend feels that the time you have spent cheering her on and supporting her is one of the better parts of her cancer experience. It is invaluable to have someone care about you enough to take the time to understand your illness and try to help and support you. You may be the only person who has truly understood what her illness is like. It is not on you to control the outcome of the illness. That is somewhat out of all of our hands once we have done our treatments. Being there for her is a rare gift that you were both given.

      I am wishing her and you the very best.

      about 5 hours ago
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    BugsBunny asked a questionBone Cancer

    Does chemo and radiation cause you to lose balance and make it hard to walk?

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      I have not had anything that has made me dizzy, yet. I hope I don't, I have enough problems as it is!

      3 days ago
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      Head radiation did that to me. It took me months and months I'd try to get a slipper on, if I bent over-dizziness attacked me. - Later I had to rest before I could get my socks and shoes on without having dizzy and balance problems. That actually took about 2 years.

      2 days ago
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      I had lots of trouble looking up at the ceiling--cleaning painting. I am scared of getting up on a ladder and paint the over head. I duck tape paint to a paint extender stick to cut in. I use mops to wash the ceilings.

      2 days ago
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    BugsBunny asked a questionBone Cancer

    Good news to report! Scans are looking like chemo is working!

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