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    Loss (Lost loved one): Lost my Mom on Nov.18, 2013. She only lived 6 months after we learned she had Breast cancer. Very devastating and painful for me and rest of my family! Slowly learning that I will be ok with her absence. She is no longer my security blanket as most mother's tend to be and for a brief moment that scared the XXX out of me! But she raised a strong boy with her goodness in me and reminding myself of this everyday keeps her with me!!

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    Thanks for your post, like you my biggest fear for my Mom is living in pain and not enjoying the rest of her life. We are not at the Hospice care point yet, she has severe bone pain and has been living on her couch for the last 3 month, the doctors couldn't treat her until they knew what to treat. I just hope her treatments will give her a chance feel better and maybe go have a few last hurrah's!!!

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      I was scared to death that Our mom was going to have a long painful decline. I spoke with the dr. about the whole process of dieing. He said with her condition she would literally drown in her own fluids. So, that got me worried. But with breathing treatments, and meds they gave us to give her, she was mostly compfortable right to the end. Much, Much better than I thought it would be for her. Again, I hope all goes as good as it can be for you and your mom.

      about 4 years ago
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    Bulldogger asked a questionBreast Cancer

    Mom has stage 4 BC/Bone

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      I took care of both of my parents in hospice care. We lost them within 10 months of each other, this after me finishing my third go around with cancer myself. Both Mom and Dad had substantial pain so start with, but as the Dr.s started adjusting the treatments or I should say meds. (there is no treatment in hospice,just pain management) the pain was controlled, they were both comfortable right to the end. I was worried, especially with mom that she would die a horrible painful death from stage4 lung cancer. It wasnt that way at all. I understand your mom is not in hospice yet, but if you move to that, do not be afraid. The hospice nurses we had were great and made sure there were no problems.
      Good luck to both of you.

      about 4 years ago
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      Radiation is targeted treatment and hormonal therapy is either to deplete estrogen or replace estrogen depending on what she is taking. If she is not getting chemotherapy for her bone mets, I am assuming that her treatment is palliative and intended to provide pain relief and better overall quality of life. However, I would suggest you have your mom authorize her doctors to release her medical information to you (if she hasn't already) so you can ask this question of her oncologist and find out exactly what the purpose of her treatment is.

      about 4 years ago
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    My Mom was just diagnosed with Stage 4 BC spread to her bones, She just started treatment 2 days ago. It took 3 months to get a diagnosis and she recieved no treatment during that time. In this 3 month period I have literally watched her waste away. She is in so much pain. My question is now that shes started her treatment will she get better and have a better quality of life, I know there isnt a cure at this point, I just want her to be comfortable!! She is 65, HER2 positive and is getting Radiation and Estrogen therapy.

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      My heart goes out to you and your family. I know there are several people who can help you on the site. I think the most effective way to reach them would be to post this as a question by clicking on Questions in the purple bar above. It will be routed to people who might be able to weigh in.

      about 4 years ago