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      glam

      Talk with this doctor....it is not because plan A didn't work that you have to give up....There are many chemo protocols and clinical trials out there that he probably could use as plan B, C, D etc....also set google alerts to research for treatments possibilities for his type of cancer/stage.....additionally ask your partner's doctor about gene mutations.....knowing the genetic map of your love will help doctors to define treatment by knowing which drugs will not be effective and which will be and also to help with some reactions to side effects.....The best scenario in my opinion would be to fight with all weapons he can, so combining both traditional medicine with natural one could be an option....but discuss always with his doctor before adopting any procedure.....Good bless you both and continue blessing all of us

      over 3 years ago
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      You'll have a hard time finding local professionals in the medical world give advice on "Alternative" treatment. I've done a fair share of research on the Internet and there are plenty of snake oil salesmen out there trying to sell a cure for everything. After researching, I'm a firm believer in optimum nutrition and feeding your body properly to promote wellness. It's the same thing our parents have always told us, "Eat right, exercise regularly, say your bedtime prayers, and get plenty of sleep." For my cancer journey, I bought a juicer and totally vegged out on anything organic. I've read up on Gerson Therapy, Budwig Protocol, Apricot seeds, spices like Tumeric and Licorice Root and tried to sort out in my mind what made the most sense for me.

      over 3 years ago
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      Have you looked into clinical trials? I have a friend who's been doing them for years, always searching for something promising.

      over 3 years ago
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    I found out the diagnosis that he has. But more importantly, the results of his full body scans. The cancer has not spread beyond where it currently sits. It has burrowed into the bone of his jaw, and when the tumor shrinks there will be a lot of pain. But I thank God that the cancer isn't anywhere else.

    He walked me through the plans that have been put in place for him. Chemo, teeth removal, feeding tubes, then radiation and chemo together.

    I have hope. I am not as afraid as before. Reading a lot, and getting so many responses has been a blessing.

    I am relieved. But I am also torn. I do not know if this is from lack of sleep or my own depression and insecurities. Living in a different country, I feel useless. His caregivers will be his mother, father and sister. I am glad that they have decided to share the responsibilities. I pray that they are all okay through this. But it leaves to question what role I have.

    Not that roles are important. But it dawned on me today that I may be doing more damage than good. I realised that I should probably step back and give him space and time to be with his family. So that they can grow strong together. But me being on the other end of a computer messenger system asking questions and such may not be a good thing.

    I love him so completely. If pulling away is what he needs to get through this, then I will. I don't know what to do. I asked him if this is what he wants and needs. He said no. But I am still unsure. I do not want to step on the toes of his family. I don't want to intrude on the support structure that they are creating. I don't want to overstep my boundaries. I don't even know what my boundaries are. He has told me everything that is going on to this point. But he won't always be so vocal with me. Especially when he starts to become fatigued. I feel like I am on the outside of the barrier that is being erected. And that it isn't my place to try and step within. I believe that it is the decision of his family and himself if I am to be invited in or not.

    I am sorry. I am using this as a venting tool. It is good to get this out of my head.

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      More importantly. The doctor used to words that I cried for...'treatable' and 'curable'. I am still processing these words. I am so happy.

      almost 4 years ago
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      Glad to hear you got some semi good news. Vent all you want, lots of people here to help you through it. We wish him the best!

      almost 4 years ago
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