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      timetoshare

      I like your photo. Tell me how you are doing? I could not tell if there was something fluffy close by. Were you resting? So much of that is required. Thanks for sharing.

      over 4 years ago
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    Hi I have same cancer and stage. If you'd like to join an awesome group on Facebook look me up my name is Carrie Day Snelgrove from Massachusetts. Hugs!!

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      Ironmom45 yes it's a closed group. The admin does a check on each member before she allows people into this group. What's posted inside the group stays inside the group. Only group members see your posts within the group page. It's a very welcoming, warm group of ladies. All ages, all stages of cancer and treatments. Hope this helps!

      over 4 years ago
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      Thank you will definitely check it out. Feel like an alien on fb like once we been thru this just can't identify with mortals lol sounds crazy but how I'm feeling.

      over 4 years ago
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      IronMom45

      Is it your brave heart group?

      over 4 years ago
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    carrie2409 asked a questionEndometrial (Uterine) Cancer

    How do Others deal with emotions?

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      Ejourneys

      Former Bostonian here -- I am so glad you are escaping the snow and cold!

      Everything you are feeling -- good, bad, and indifferent -- is completely natural. I had to cut myself a lot of slack. I am also caregiver to my partner, who has MS, and I had to communicate to her what my limitations were and are. I did/do a lot of venting in a handwritten journal. Writing, drawing, and listening to music are all forms of meditation for me. Exercise helps keep my endorphins and my mood up. My most stressful times were when my own needs came up against my partner's needs and I had to compromise one or the other. Sometimes taking things one day at a time became taking them one minute at a time.

      One thing that has helped me was ditching all the "should"s. As in: I should feel this, or I should do that. [Expletive deleted] that! Being at peace with who I am and with my decisions -- including those infrequent times when I yell a blue streak -- have gone a long way toward helping me cope. You are doing the very best you can during very difficult times.

      Wishing you and your mom a fabulous cruise!

      over 4 years ago
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      Hi Carrie, the others have given some great advice already. Yeah, we are human and all that comes with that: the ups, downs, times to cry and times to laugh. You'll find that the time away is just what you need, even though it might seem a little tough to let go and go. As for myself, some days when I hear "you're so strong" I want to scream that I'm a marshmallow inside. At first I tried the "fake it 'til you make it" strategy, saying every day was a good day even when it was real a tough day in hopes that it would come around. I found that that was exhausting to keep up. Once I started to admit to my co-workers when a day was rough and be open, honest and genuine with my feelings, I got more support than I ever expected. It was a huge weight off to just to be honest, hiding it was too hard. So, admit when a day is a challenge, cry when you need to. The bad moments pass and the blessed ones come again. Even through all these struggles there is so much to be thankful for. As the others said, keep venting here, there is nothing new under the sun. Hugs and enjoy that vacay!

      over 4 years ago
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      BoiseB

      My advice is don't try to be optimistic or pessimistic. Trying to be anything other that a survivor is a waste of precious energy. I have a grumpy cat (my favorite Facebook friend) sense of humor. I don't try to have any sort of energy I just use whatever energy I have to survive.
      I second the pity party. Invite your friends or hubby. Have black balloons your favorite comfort foods and some onions to chop for guests that have a hard time turning on the tears. After everyone has had a good cry pop the balloons and dig into the food.

      over 4 years ago
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