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    charl0tte asked a questionTesticular Cancer

    What do I say when the person I am looking after says things like "I just want to die."?

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    • ticklingcancer's Avatar

      Hey Charlotte, you should remind him of everything he has to live for. I was diagnosed with Stage III Testicular Cancer in November 2011. Treatment for this is brutal and I can certainly relate to him wanting to throw in the towel but life is worth it. He'll realize this once he gets this treatment behind him. Just be encouraging. I would imagine he's having a rough time and may even be a little depressed about it. Might not be a bad idea to have him speak with someone about putting him on medication just while he goes through treatment. The meds can be reevaluated once he completes treatment.

      over 3 years ago
    • nancyjac's Avatar

      You don't have to say anything, you just have to listen.

      over 3 years ago
    • braintumorz's Avatar

      Hi, charl0tte,

      I am a brain cancer survivor at 23, and I want you to know that I have thought and said those things before. Where some would panic, I think a measured reaction is important. The person you are looking for is probably just trying to express how much pain they are in and for one reason or another, they may feel like no one understands quite how bad they are feeling. I would sympathize and give physical support, like a hug, rather than try and reason your way out of this situation. I'm sure you will notice high and low points, and this may be the lowest, but you can realize and acknowledge even to the person you're looking after that it will only go up from here.

      over 3 years ago