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    Hello fellow What Nexters. It has been a while since I have checked in. I need some support, and knew no better place to go. When I was in active treatment, I visited often, and was shocked and hurt to hear some of the stories of spouses not being supportive to their partner. Whatever the reason, it totally escaped me on how that could be. I finished my maintenance chemo in March. My husband was arrested for Domestic Violence/Simple assault in April. One of his biggest issues was the financial damage all of my health issues has done. Dealing with domestic abuse, cancer, and turning 40 is proving to be A LOT to deal with. Any input, support, or hearing from someone in the same kind of situation would be helpful.

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      Dawntaylor

      New here, just found your post. I'm so sorry you experienced that. I hope that things are better now. I will be praying for you! Please let me know how you are now. Thank you

      over 3 years ago
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    cjnana asked a questionNon-Hodgkin Lymphoma (NHL)

    How do you get back to "normal"?

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      GymVamp182

      I am sorry to say that you really never go back it just doesn't work that way. Cancer irreparably changes your life forever in ways you never thought possible. However why do you need to go back? It isn't easy having cancer nor beating it but in my opinion we are all stronger for it. Wear this survivor badge with pride I know I do. I have a ribbon with survivor over it tattooed just above my port. You will always have a different outlook on life now, don't make that into a bad thing, You now have insight into something that most cant begin to imagine.You just have to get use to a new kind of normal you may feel a bit out of step for awhile but you will get there I promise. :)

      about 4 years ago
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      survivorCA

      I am in seven yrs of remission from BREAST/THYROID CANCERS, I felt no fear of that disease, and I just rolled with life that the GOOD LORD gave me.I was working then also and I was put through a lot of STRESS, by my then second boss, (my first was a darling, and never downed me) and caused me to go to THERAPY for DEPRESSION/ANXIETY.. So I RETIRED/RESIGNED. Yes, I am on medication for all that, and I am fine now. I just listened to my doctors and the GOOD LORD, with help from my family, son and daughter-in-law..I am now facing a possibility of another surgery if the NODULE increases growth on my PARATHYROID where the right thyroid was removed. I just look at it this way so be it, and do it. After retiring/resigning from the MEDICAL FIELD after 23+ yrs, I understood all of the messy disease. I lost my first "SHELTIE", THERAPY/SERVICE DOG with LIVER CANCER, and I now have two "GORGEOUS SHELTIE'S" now too, they are THERAPY/SERVICE DOGS..My dogs watched me even after my LFT TOTAL KNEE REPLACEMENT last August 2012. My deceased "SHELTIE" knew I had CANCER before my doctors did and before my MAMMOGRAM. THANKS FOR THE VA for my medical care, I am a Veteran, UNITED STATES AIR FORCE..

      Marie Czarnecki
      North Las Vegas, NV

      almost 4 years ago
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      survivorCA

      Have FAITH and no FEAR of that disease. I am seven yrs in remission from BREAST/THYROID CANCERS. I am possibly looking forward to maybe another surgery because my PARATHYROID has a nodule and if there shows any growth on my ULTR-SOUND next month I will be back in surgery.I went through a DEPRESSION/ANXIETY stage I go to therapy and medication helps. That all come about from my work..So I retired/resigned for my peace of mind, you can not heal under STRESS... I RETIRED FROM THE MEDICAL FIELD after 23+ yrs so my medical situation was no problem for me. I just thank God I have the VA for my medical care, or I would be in God's Heaven today. I am an UNITED STATES AIR FORCE VETERAN..

      Marie Czarnecki and her "SHELTIE'S"//THERAPY/ SERVICE DOGS

      N. Las Vegas,NV

      almost 4 years ago
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    Celebration (Remission): My PET scan came back CLEAN! I am sooo excited and relieved! Thank you to everyone for their support and prayers! I only have one more round of maintenance chemo! Now I have to figure out "what's next". I don't know how to live life without cancer as a center point. Any suggestions?

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    I had a PET scan this moring. I hate when you have those tests, and then have to wait DAYS to find out the results. I am staying positive and hoping for a clean scan. If all goes well I will enter my second year in remission and have only 6 maintenence chemo left!

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      GregP_WN

      Waiting for tests is sometimes worse than the test was. I like my facility Vanderbilt University Medical Center in Nashville. I have the scan in the morning, then two hours later I see my doctor and he pulls the scan up on the computer and tells me what we need to know.
      But the other places I go, I have to wait like you are now. It's no fun. Here's wishing you clean and happy scans!

      about 4 years ago
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    cjnana asked a questionNon-Hodgkin Lymphoma (NHL)

    What and How ....do I do now?

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      nancyjac

      Well I would start by finding out why you can't use your student loan? Is it because you want to take just one class instead of being a full time student? Is it because this particular class wouldn't count towards your degree? Can you take the class somewhere else, like maybe a community college. $1500 for one class sound exceptionally high regardless of who is paying for it.

      about 4 years ago
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      carm

      cjnana,
      If I were you I would speak to an academic advisor who can get you hooked into scholarship opportunities. Another way to do it is to post your situation on www.giveforward.com. There are many philantropists that visit the site to contribute and use it as a tax write off. It is a great way to earn money. I had a patient who did it and in 2 months she had about 25,000. because she linked it to her fb page and her friends did as well. She also made flyers and put them all around. It is a start. You might also contact www.patientadvocate.org because they might be able to direct you to resources that could help. I know how expensive it can be, I just got another degree this past December. Best of luck to you, Carm RN.

      about 4 years ago
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      leepenn

      Depending on where you're going to school, one class for $1500 may or may not be exceptionally expensive... I can only imagine how frustrated you must feel.

      Anyway - three things immediately jumped to mind....

      First - The advice to see an advisor is a really good one. Also, I don't know how long you were out of school... but sometimes there can be funding for people returning to school. An advisor might be able to help you find those resources. Plus, these sources tend to be underapplied for (as I understand it).

      Second - the innerwebs!
      A quick google search using these terms: adult students scholarships
      yielded a ton of hits.

      AND... consider these search terms: adult students scholarships cancer - BAM! Some good hits there as well.

      http://www.finaid.org/scholarships/cancer.phtml

      Third - I don't know if this is true in your area, but there are some hospitals that will support you in exchange for a commitment of a certain time period of employment. Now, I don't know how that would work for part time studies... but it is something to consider looking into.

      It's a tough time with universities right now - across the country, funds are more and more difficult to find.... and tuition rates are rising higher and higher.

      I hope this helps. And I hope you are able to take the class!

      about 4 years ago
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    Oh No: Ended up in ICU due to chest pains. Diagnosed as possible arterial spasms. Also could be nueropathy due to chemo. Doctors are also considering that it could be fibromyalgia.