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      cllinda

      My dad was just horrible towards the end of his fight. And he took it all out on my mom, like it was her fault that he had pancreatic cancer and was dying. And then he got real quiet and that was generally the end. Hospice came in on Friday and early Sunday morning, he was gone.

      I hope I didn't scare you by this but sometimes, this happens. Cancer Sucks!

      almost 4 years ago
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      Lorie

      ConBir Just so sorry you have to go thru this. Remember, it's not the real him. He's sick and when I don't feel good, I get grumpy too.
      Lorie

      almost 4 years ago
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      MikeAnne

      My husband was the same and my daughters tried to get him to be nicer to me. He became very dependent on me shortly before he passed and I lost him on 1/14/16 and, while it was tough while he was sick, I would give anything to have him in the room again with me. I am so glad he is out of pain which was excruciating for him, but I miss him terribly.

      almost 4 years ago
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      ConBir

      My husband is completely different from the man I married. He is absolutely mean beyond words! I cannot understand how he can be so awful. Yes, I thought it was Chemo brain. Anyone have similar experiences?

      almost 4 years ago
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      isnoop

      It's not you. He is mad at the world and does not understand why this has happened to him, so he's taking it out on you. Just stick by him and love him and pray that he beats this devastating disease.

      almost 4 years ago
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      BuckeyeShelby

      Hi ConBir. Make sure to protect yourself, too. Respite care is a good thing -- is there a friend or family member who can be there for him for a couple hours so you can have some "you time"? A caregiver who doesn't take care of themselves is going to burn out quickly. Set boundaries. I'm the cancer patient, but my mom had to go into a nursing home for other things. She and I always got along great -- because she lived 100 miles away. Suddenly, she's in a facility a few miles from my home. I told her -- if you get nasty w/me, I will pack up my stuff and go home. I will be back, but I won't take it. She tested me once. I told her that I loved her but that I had to leave now and would be back on the next regular visiting day. She never tested me again. Occasionally made me crazy, but never got nasty. But I had a really easy out -- I didn't live w/her... Good luck. We are here for you!

      almost 4 years ago
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