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    I'm having aajor problem with my husband going back in time to an ex girlfriend of his and talking to her on bluetooth behind my back supposedly and I feel hurt and I feel like everything I do he tells her. I feel that they're plotting to get me released from caregiving. I don't know if I'm supposed to ignore this which I have tried but the fact that he would disrespect me after marrying me just makes my heart feel like it's been cut open and I don't know what to do. She is the type that can't do anything I have done for him when it comes to grants and applying for his disability, etc. I feel like when he has everything he needs out of me he'll go back running to this girl who is everything I am not. She is lazy, all her kids are in prison, she's messy in her house and she is a backstabber. Feeling alone and used. He keeps telling me I'm imaganing things but I hear her and I hear him whispering back all day and night and that might be why his desire sexually is not for me either.

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      GregP_WN

      Sorry your continuing to have problems with this issue. Sounds like you simply need to talk to him about it.

      over 4 years ago
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    Radiation (Other): Clinical trial, results negative

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    Loss (Body part/function): Spouse lost eyesight

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    I need help placing a photo on here. Also, this week we finally got approved for our married pay through VA so we're buying a little beater to hold us over. My hearing for my disability is Thursday and if that is granted I will get a better vehicle. My problem is that my husband is still talking to his ex of 20 years ago on bluetooth of some sort I can't find the device, however, I am taping but I haven't been through listening yet. But I feel my privacy is being invaded cause he wants to discuss banking issues, etc. while she is on the phone. I feel like she is plotting to get me in trouble with someone like Hospice. Yet, she hasn't been here for a darned thing, she used to call me all the time till they got this little XXX hooked up now she never calls the phone. He tells me I'm crazy but I hear conversations, like now he is in kitchen steady talking and I'm over here with headphones on. At first it ripped my heart out but now through my faith it doesn't hurt as bad only through my ego because she is really ugly, keeps nasty house, etc. etc. It's like why continue working my XXX off and giving up my life to take care of him? He disrespects me every time I hear her voice so if I should get the blessing of my back pay through SS I'm going to leave him alone and see what he does? So much I need to hear from someone I don't know what to do? We have to get this out in open or I can't go on. Our weeks are great then the weekend comes and I don't know how they are doing the charging etc. but I know what I'm hearing is real.

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      GregP_WN

      Hello again, hope your issues are getting solved, sorry your having trouble. As for posting a picture, follow these steps:
      Click on the icon where your picture will go, or the link under it.
      Select a picture that is on your computer that you want to use as your profile pic.
      Then click the upload button.
      That's it, wait a few minutes as it may take just a minute or two depending on your internet speed.
      Let us know if you need more help.

      over 4 years ago
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    My husband has started to talk to his ex of 30 years ago behind my back with some type of bluetooth device and the first weekend he told me I was hearing things and that I had a mental problem, etc. while steady laughing in my face. It literally felt like someone tore my heart out. She's very unattractrive and chews tobacco too. Since he got sick not one of his so called friends has stepped on the line to help. It came so fast I stayed up all night researching and applying for grants for treatment which was all clinical trials and like tonite he went to sleep then about 5 a.m. he's on the phone with her again. I've lost it a couple times and played right into their hands and lost my temper looking like a complete fool. But I think he owes me the respect to be honest and show me some appreciation. Any suggestions?