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    Daughter66 asked a questionLung Cancer

    Long Distance Care Giver

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    • geekling's Avatar

      As much as you want it to be that way, there is no such thing as long distance caregiving.

      Either go to them or arrange for someone else to oversee their day to day needs.

      You can phone, you can visit, you can listen to their woes but you can't take care of them from 960 miles away.

      You must choose.

      Either give up your current life for a time and go to them or give up the responsibilities for their needs to someone else who you hire to be there in person in your stead.

      If, as you say, the cancer is spreading and there is no other help you are seeking but what she already has, you need to arrange a trip, before too long, to say all those things you need to say prior to the final goodbye from this life.

      I'm so very sorry for your troubles and woe.

      about 8 years ago
    • Jray's Avatar

      I agree with geekling. I am a 24/7 caregiver for my husband ( age 61). It's very demanding of alot of your time... Day and night! You are going to be frazzled trying to do anything from your location. I think you may want to have a family meeting and address all your concerns and quickly establish a plan of action. One option would be to locate an oncologist in your area and have them live with or near you in a senior assisted facility. This is gonna be a major life changing event for you and none of the choices are easy. I wish you all the best, my heart goes out to you.

      about 8 years ago
    • Gidget1978's Avatar

      My mom lives 1200 miles away. It is hard for us both. She calls me everyday. Just hearing her voice & knowing she would be here in a min if i really need her helps me tremendously. She is my biggest support even being so far away. Her positive words daily helps me get thru the rough days. So as for you, if you can't be a hands-on caregiver, be the support for positive thinking. Encourage positive thoughts for her & be strong. It will help more than you think.

      about 8 years ago
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