I was diagnosed a year ago (my second bc diagnosis) and am still having a hard time. Lost my waist length hair, both breasts and my job of 17 years. My severe scoliosis got much more painful with the stress of chemo. My daughter came home and helped during chemo (I am so grateful!) and has now moved back to a city 850 miles away (I miss her). My amazing, supportive husband is suffering from depression which he has had problems with for his whole life. We are way over our heads in debt, even though we always have lived frugally. People I worked with for years aren't interested in keeping in touch. It takes time to move on.
I try to focus on the positive. I'm healing well from the chemo and surgery. Yoga helped me with range of motion. I am collecting disability, which is a big help even if not as much as I was earning. I actually like my hair short, it's so easy to care for it and people like how it looks. The boss who fired me (after telling me my job would be waiting for me when I felt better) has left me open for other possibilities. I'm squeezing these lemons for lemonade as hard as I can! It's not a linear process, there will be strides forward and set-backs, but life is a process and change is inevitable even without serious illness. We have to decide how we will accept and work with the change. And we need to give ourselves time to grieve and then move forward.