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    Fear of the unknown can cause a ton of anxiety. Contemplating what decision to make can be overwhelming, and I certainly know you never signed up for this process, with that in mind I want to let you know I too have been on this journey and have found that it takes time to process the whole thing, and eventually you realize you will never be the same again but that is okay, and you'll discover a new wonderful perspective to view everything from. I found this forum was helpful but realized just how individual this journey is for each of us. There is no right or wrong answer for all, but there is a common understanding with us all. So, I will share for me it has been my faith that carried me. I learned to take one day at a time and just face the decision making process one question at a time. I asked a ton of questions, I listened to statistics and I checked in with others who have been there done that, and then I prayed for clarity. I was stage 1 invasive breast cancer, I had two separate tumors in my right breast, I was ER+ which meant that the breast cancer I have feeds off of estrogen. I opted to do a complete mastectomy, and they removed several sentinel lymph nodes at the same time. It came back that the lymph nodes were clear so my staging was 1. I had reconstruction and today I am waiting for a revision of the reconstruction and then I will find a tattoo artist who can don3 dimensial nipple tattoos. I had some adverse side effects to the medication they gave me and at 10 months post mastectomy I had to have my uterus and ovaries removed. I no longer take medication (although they offere it as a continued treatment) but my choice with all that I had considered was to be treatment free from here on out, with the exception of the revisions on reconstruction. Oct 2013. I had my biopsy and on Nov 1, 2013 I was diagnosed. I had my breasts removed on Nov 14, 2013. If all went pretty fast. I feel great, I have some things like hot flashes and sad days that my body is different, that I don't have 'real' breasts and nipples, BUT, I get through those days and remind myself that my life here for my family and friends is worth fighting for and I am far more then my body, it is only a shell that contains the real me and so I press on! Anything you want to ask please know I am here and willing to share my been there done that ......keep in mind your journey is unique to you and you must move forward finding your peace and answers. Prayers for you Hayley

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    Hi! I joined this site after several treatments. I was diagnosed nov 2014. I'm hoping I can be of help if you have any questions. I was 46 almost 47 at diagnosis and have almost exactly same diagnosis as you do. I want to encourage you in your journey and extend to you a messag of hope! There are many blessings in the midst of the storms me this is what I focus on and keeps me going! Peace to you, Hayley

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      Thank You for the encouragement. I see that you have been through your surgery already. I am really struggling with the choice to make about lumpectomy or mastectomy? Right when I think I know what to do - I realize I don't. I also have two separate tumors that were relatively undetectable by a mammo because of the location. Blessings. Chantal

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      Sorry for the delay in response to you. I prayed for peace and discernment and asked God for the 'burning bush' and after dropping my daughter off at school I was waking to the parking lot I heard the word, 'eradicate' in my head. I googled it and it sais, "rip out by the roots" this gave me the peace to opt for Mastectomy. I also felt both needed to go, as the two lumps I had were also not noted on the mammogram, as I have dense breast tissue and they laid close to the chest muscle wall (pectorals). I spoke with a few other ladies who opted for the lumpectomy that within a few years ended up having to have a mastectomy, so it confirmed any second guessing I was having after the procedure. It's not easy to come to, but when you do you will know what's right for you. Learning to live with no nipples, the change in my body etc takes time but the alternative of it coming back, or not getting enough, etc is not something I wanted to deal with everyday. Also, because of my decision to go with complete mastectomy, I did not have to endure chemotherapy. My lymphnodes were clear. I hope this helps a bit. Each journey is very personal. you can also email me if you wish [email redacted] blessings to you for peace in the direction you are to go! Hayley

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    your recent post to What did you do to accept this "new normal" and all the things you reported of post op, feelings, thoughts etc ring true in my head. No one in my family understands as I am the first to experience this, and they all have moved forward like everything is fine yet I wake everyday and I am reminded of how different I look and feel because of the cancer, the treatments, the medication etc, and now I am headed in for yet another surgery because of side effects etc of Tamoxifen. (removing all my inside parts! ovaries, uterus, Fallopian tubes and cervix of course) I have gained over 45 lbs, I exercise but have difficulties breathing and getting over heated I never use to have, I have changed my diet, but it doesn't help........anyhow, I still move forward and as far as it is up to me make positive choices and choose to smile, but honestly, it sucks. It really sucks and sometimes I just have a hard time and feel all alone. Thanks for your post and I will be rooting for you in your journey. peace