Hi FLH, I am sending you a big virtual hug right now. It sounds like you are doing everything possible. Have you contacted the American Cancer Society? They have a 24 hour phone line and you can access the phone number to the right and at the bottom of this page. Any luck with Medicaid?
We've also had several discussions on Whatnext about dealing with fiscal issues of cancer. Here is a link to those discussions: https://www.whatnext.com/questions?utf8=✓&question_query=financial&commit=Search
I also suggest you post a question in our Questions section (you can do this by clicking on Questions in the purple bar above). And you can ask how others dealt with a similar issue.
Please keep us posted and do call the American Cancer Society. They have many resources and can suggest some next steps. You are not alone and we will do whatever we can to help.