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    gayle asked a questionBreast Cancer

    Stage 4 breast cancer

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      Ydnar2xer

      She sounds like my mother--when I told her my breast cancer had returned, she then told me she had to go to the dentist for a crown! TOXIC! My solution is to MINIMIZE HER! Why waste what time you have left, trying to convert a selfish person into a caring one? There are too many other wonderful people in life to spend time with. Good luck. WE care about you, Gayle.

      over 1 year ago
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      Beverley

      Hi Gayle, first let me say that I wish you the best in your treatment and results. As responders have already said, there are new treatments which may hold promise with your stage of cancer. As far as your friend, you are more aware of her behavior because of your sensitivity, but I bet if you think about it, your friend was always that way. Someone you could go out with and never worry about conversation because it will always be about her! Gives you the opporutunity to take a mental break because the only thing you have to do is nod at the appropriate times and gester at the appropriate times because she'll never notice that you haven't said a word. Let it roll off because they are who they are and you having cancer won't change that.

      over 1 year ago
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      Roadrunner

      I like a lot of the above answers. If it were me I would ask myself if this person is really a friend? Maybe it is time to clean house of "empty" friends. Within the last two years I have noticed my best friends are now also breast cancer patients. I have drifted away from other friends. With my BC friends we can talk about ANYTHING, and with them we are always laughing when we do things. If you can join a support group or find other BC patients in your area. After our support group and cancer art class we all go to a local fast food place that looks forward to our rowdy group. They play the oldies and we sing along and then laugh. They close at ten and allow us to stay inside and sit at the tables until they are done cleaning and then they come and say, "ok ladies...it is time to go home." I recently ran into a non breast cancer patient and she asked how my last surgery went and I said GREAT, my path report came back all 8 clusters were benign........she asked, "Is that good or bad".........now you know why I like my BC friends much better.......they all cheered when I told them. You don't need a person in your life that causes any kind of hurt, bad feelings or negative thoughts. Good luck.

      over 1 year ago
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