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    Glenda asked a questionLung Cancer

    Has anyone lost their spouse and could tell me what to do to make it easier?

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      Klyn

      I lost my husband 10 years ago. Worst day of my life! He was my soul mate. I miss him dearly every day. It is not something you get over. But as time goes on you learn to cope. My grandchildren and my kids have helped. I think about him every day, but he wouldn't want me to be sad all the time. Just try and keep yourself as busy as you can. Travel if you can, do things that make you happy. Laugh as much as you can, think of all the good times you had. That always brings a smile to my face. Take care..

      almost 7 years ago
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      Indyen12

      I lost my husband in September after 5 months - diagnosis of late-stage liver cancer. I was in the hospital having a lobectomy for lung cancer when he passed. We were together for nearly 26 years. As my head clears ( sort of ) from my ordeal, it is easier to grasp my loss. I'm seeing a counselor, talk to my friends and sisters, did a holiday grief thing via hospice. We love them and we miss them terribly - but we are still here and you know they would want us to find joy again, however small each piece is. Allow yourself to do whatever feels right for you, when it feels right. Don't let others keep you from your joy OR your grief. And time is the thing that lets the rawness subside. I still shed tears most every day, but I also embrace all the memories and smile. Good luck to you.

      almost 7 years ago
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      nick_satx

      I lost my wife of 31 yrs 13 yrsw ago to lung,bone,brain and lymph cancer.I didn't know what to do,people who I thought were friends wanted nothing to do with me.Went to a few greif meetings but none of them were moving on and then I heard on radio about a group online and joined them amd it made a big difference.I could tell them anything and they didn't judge me because they had been thru it also.How you handle greif is different for everyone and as long as my son was ok with me that was all I cared about.It took me about 2 yrs before I was ready to move on and having people understand the process was what helped me.Now here I am with bladder cancer facing who knows what.

      almost 7 years ago
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    I just can't handle reading this any longer , I am very sad for all of you. The doctor said with treatment one to two years, He did not even live six months

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    Glenda asked a questionLung Cancer

    Did you get scared? Did the doctors seem to not give you any information? and seem to not have time or not want to talk

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      collinsb01

      All great answers. You are definitely not dumb. The Docs are always on a schedule of about 10 mins per patient, but if you requier more time, you should by all means take it. Always ask the Doc or their nurse to provide you with a data sheet for every new chemo med that is used. This will give you a start. Anything that you think of later, write it down and call the Doc's office or ask at the next visit. No question is a dumb question. God bless you both.

      almost 7 years ago
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      joyce508

      I had a lot of problems with doctors the ear nose and throat doctor as well as the doctor that cut me open and found the cancer had me going back and forth for months before they sent me to a cancer doctor that they sent me to but buy the time I said enough of the games I went and chose my own doctor I was broke from the $45 copay several times a week and I lost my job because of all the time I was off.The good think I did do was to keep a note book and wrote down what happened at each appointment I found they were also charging my insurance for thinks not done,I also took photo of what I looked like every now and then showing just how much i would swell and what they did to treat me it turns out they had me on so many steroids It was making cancer cells go haywire but because the doctor I now see knew what other doctors did he was able to treat me better.I didn't do this to cause problems or sue I just wanted to get on with my life.It is hard till you find the right doctor you can call your cancer society and ask bout doctors they gave me help with a lot of things good luck and don't give up it's our fight

      almost 7 years ago
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      shauna0915

      I suggest, like others, writing your questions down and taking someone with you to your appointments so you get all of your questions answered. Do not be afraid to remind the doctor that you are a CUSTOMER and he/she is providing a service for which you pay. One of my specialists reminded me of that once. If you aren't getting the service you expect either address the issue with your doctor or find a new doctor. You do not need to be made to feel stupid or left feeling like your questions have not been answered.

      Think of it like this... if you went out to dinner and your order came out totally wrong, would you accept it or send it back? It's basically the same concept. If your doctor isn't providing adequate service, you need to bring it to their attention. If necessary, remind them of their own patients Bill of Rights.

      almost 7 years ago