This is a good post, GregP_WN.
It reminds people to simply be people as is ordinary and as how they have always been with each other.
I lost a gf to this lastest attack by squamous. I was shocked when my "friend" immediately distanced herself. I know she already had responsibilities so I did not expect much but she separated herself so quickly I was thoroughly amazed.
I was her angel but she not mine. I took her to the hospital twice when she got an infection she was unable to quell on her own. I visited her and returned her home when she was well, each time.
Her response to me when I told her there was a teeny spot of cancer was outrageous. "What are you going to do?" and then she changed the subject without even waiting for a reply.
So I never gave her a reply. On subsequent occasions when she asked "How are you doing?" my response has always been "Fine. TY."
I no longer ask her how she is doing or what she is up to or invite her to lets do this or do that.
When people are helpless, the least they can do is say "I'll pray for you." A good vibe is always nice.