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      Marci

      As everyone has said - you dodged a very big bullet. People do not change and you do not need nor want a spouse who cheats and lies. This is not the thing of a lasting relationship. Be glorious being you and getting well. This is not anything you did but it sure brought out how immature this guy is. You are fortunate that he is going to move on and so are you. Mature relationships do not end this way - so your little person is looking for something that he will not have to address "real issues" and burries himself in drugs and alcohol. Not a good recipie for success. Just be great with yourself and call up your really good girlfriends and have a great time with them. And next time you are in a relationship and you get anklings of something not quite right - trust your instincts cause they know and act upon it. Do not disregard the red flags. Just be great with being you and getting well!!!

      over 3 years ago
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      Hi Jamieg I am in the same situation as you are. Broke up with my boyfriend 3 weeks before my last radiation treatment ( have completed bi lateral mastectomy, chemo and 25 radiation treatments). While I mourn my seven year relationship and I do feel lonely I realize that change is sometimes for the best. Focus on the good things in your life. I have a daughter and a grandbaby ....so I have been trying to get more involved in their lives. I also keep myself busy....not to say I am in denial as I do have my bad days and miss him dearly but such is life. I'v learnt that you cannot force a relationship and if it is too much work than maybe it's not worth it. I also feel that my diagnosis had something to do with the demise of my relationship . If that is the case than good riddance because I do not want to be with someone superficial and is only with me when life is good ! Take good care of yourself and put yourself number one right now!

      over 3 years ago
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      kajungirltn

      IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! I am facing same thing when I get home. The problems were there before diagnosis, my eyes just got opened and I've decided that it's time to live a happy life without all of his issues. I had to have surgery out of state because I couldn't count on him. That's bad. Now while I'm recovering from a double mastectomy and reconstruction he notifies me get is filing bankruptcy and can't pay any of the household expenses for the next 3 months. He is living in the house, incurring utility costs, but I'm paying everything with STD benefits at 60% of my income when I'm not there. Eye opener for me. We've been together for five years and engaged for 2 1/2 years. I now know why I've been dragging my feet on marriage. I can't marry someone I can't count on for anything. I knew I couldn't count on him financially, but now I know I can't count on him emotionally either. Just kicking me in my weakest moment. I'll have to face this before chemo

      over 2 years ago
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    Hello... I thought I'd visit your page as we don't live far from one another:) Also I was diagnosed with stage III breast cancer in Nov 2012... I've just finished my chemo a week ago and will be starting radiation in 2-3 weeks. I'm enjoying my lil break from medical appointments:):) Where are you at in this journey... Chemo, radiation or are you finished and recovering at this time? Hope to hear from you soon:)

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    Drug or Chemo Therapy (Chemotherapy): I have to do 16 treatments of chemo due to the results of the tumor. I have already done 4 of the Adriamycin/Cytoxin which were every other week. Next, I will have 12 treatments of the Taxol which is every week, along with Herceptin since the tumor is HER2 positive.

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    Procedure or Surgery (Double Mastectomy): I had a double mastectomy, axillary lymph node dissection and tissue expanders put in. The surgery ended up taking a few hours longer than expected as the tumor was larger than the surgeons expected and it had spread into my lymph nodes.